Alright, let’s talk about something, you know, personal. It’s kinda funny, you stick to one way of doing things for ages, and then one day you think, ‘Is this it?’. That’s kinda how I started exploring different ways, just out of sheer curiosity, maybe a bit of boredom with the same old, same old.
Getting Started with Switching Things Up
So, the first thing I messed around with was just the basics. Grip and speed. Sounds simple, right? But it’s wild how much difference it makes.
- Grip: I realized I always used the same kinda tight grip. So, I tried loosening it up. Totally different sensation. Then tried using just fingers, or changing the angle. It’s like finding new buttons you didn’t know existed.
- Speed and Rhythm: Always went at it like I was trying to win a race, haha. Slowing things way down was a game changer sometimes. Or varying the speed, starting slow, building up, then backing off. Made things last longer and feel more intense in waves.
Adding Tools and Techniques
Then I thought about, well, external factors. It wasn’t some big planned thing, more like stumbling upon ideas.
Lubricants: This was a big one. Honestly, I didn’t use anything for the longest time. Just went dry or whatever. Tried some basic lube – wow. Huge difference in smoothness, less friction, felt way better sometimes. Though, sometimes I still prefer the friction, depends on the mood. Tried different types too, water-based, silicone. Found I prefer water-based mostly, easier cleanup.
Positioning: Never really thought about this much either. Usually just sitting or lying down. Tried standing up, or lying on my stomach. Changes the blood flow, the angle, everything. Found that lying on my stomach, using a pillow for support, created a different kind of pressure that was pretty interesting.
Using Both Hands: Okay, this felt kinda awkward at first. Like, what do I do with the other hand? But tried using one hand for the main action and the other to add different sensations, maybe pressure at the base or stimulating other areas. Takes coordination, but adds layers to it.
Mind Games and Focus
It’s not all physical, right? What’s going on in your head matters too.
Edging: Heard about this and decided to give it a whirl. Getting close, then stopping. Over and over. Man, that takes discipline. But the buildup? Intense. Makes the final release feel massive. Didn’t always have the patience for it, but when I did, totally worth trying.
Focus: Sometimes I’d just try to really focus on the sensations. Like, really feel every little thing instead of just powering through to the end. Sounds kinda meditative, but it tunes you into your body more. Other times, letting the mind wander or focusing on a fantasy worked better. Just depends.
So yeah, that’s been my journey with it. Just trying stuff out, seeing what works, what doesn’t. No right or wrong way, obviously. It’s all about figuring out what feels good for you. Kinda funny how you can learn new things about yourself even with something so basic. Keeps things interesting, you know?
