Alright, so me and my partner, we’d been chugging along for a good while. Things were, you know, comfortable. Maybe a bit too comfortable, if I’m being honest. Like eating the same sandwich for lunch every single day. It’s reliable, sure, but you kinda forget what other flavors are out there. We just sort of fell into a rhythm, and while it wasn’t bad, it wasn’t exactly setting off fireworks either. So, we figured, maybe it was time to try and jazz things up a bit in the bedroom.
The Big Awkward Talk
First things first, we actually had to talk about it. Sounds dead simple, right? Wrong. Man, that was a whole performance. We kinda tiptoed around it for a bit. I think I started with something super vague like, “Hey, you ever think about… uh… new… stuff?” Smooth. Real smooth. But eventually, we got there. Turns out, we were both kinda feeling the same way but neither of us wanted to be the first to bring it up. Once we got past that initial hurdle, it was actually a relief. We decided we’d try and be open, no judgment, just see what happens.
Starting Small, Like Really Small
We didn’t just jump into the deep end. Nah, that wasn’t us. We decided to start with baby steps. I remember one of the first things we did was just change the scenery. Sounds silly, but we literally just… tried a different room in the house. And you know what? It actually felt different. Less routine, more like a little adventure, even if it was just ten feet from the usual spot.
Then we started playing around with timing. Instead of it always being the last thing before sleep, when we were both knackered, we tried, you know, other times. Weekends in the afternoon, or even a quick morning thing. That alone shook things up quite a bit. It was less about a massive overhaul and more about tweaking the little things we’d taken for granted.
- We also made a pact to actually put our phones away. Like, in another room. Revolutionary, I know.
- And we tried just slowing everything down. Like, way down. That was a big one.
Getting a Bit More Experimental
Okay, so after we got comfortable with the small changes, we got a little braver. We started talking more during, which was new for us. Not like full-on conversations, but just saying what felt good, or what we were thinking. Again, awkward at first, but then it kinda became part of the fun. We realized we’d been guessing a lot before, just assuming stuff.
We also tried focusing on different senses. Like, one time we decided to really focus on touch, but in ways we hadn’t before. Different pressures, different places. Another time, we played around with music, stuff we wouldn’t normally listen to, just to change the vibe. Didn’t always work, mind you. Some music choices were just plain weird and we ended up laughing, which, hey, was also pretty good.
We even talked about fantasies a bit. Didn’t act on all of them, or even most of them, but just sharing them was… interesting. It opened up another layer of understanding each other, what made us tick. We found out some stuff we both thought was a bit out there was actually something the other person was curious about too.
So, What Did We Actually Learn?
Looking back, not every single thing we tried was a roaring success. There were definitely moments where we were like, “Okay, maybe not that again.” Some things felt a bit forced, some just fell flat. But the main thing, the real takeaway for us, wasn’t about finding some magic bullet. It was the process itself.
The biggest win was just communicating more openly. Cheesy, I know, but it’s the honest truth. We learned to laugh at the awkward bits and celebrate the small discoveries. It wasn’t just about spicing up sex; it genuinely made us feel closer in general. We were a team, exploring together. And that, more than any specific “thing” we tried, was what really made a difference. We’re still trying new stuff, still talking. It’s not a destination, more like an ongoing project, and that’s pretty cool by me.
