Okay, so, my husband, right? We’ve been having this thing where he just… yells. Like, a lot. It’s not cool, and honestly, it’s been making me feel pretty terrible. I started to feel really small and, like, walking on eggshells all the time. Not a good vibe in the house, you know?
So, the first thing I did? I tried to just take a deep breath and stay calm. I realized that yelling back wasn’t going to get us anywhere. It was hard. Really hard, especially in the moment when I was just so angry and hurt. But I tried to keep it together and just let him say his piece, no matter how loud it was. Then I went to another room and just sat down, doing a little meditation to calm myself down.
After that, once things were a little more chill, I tried to talk to him. I waited until we were both in a better headspace. I just sat him down and told him, straight up, that the yelling was not okay. It was hurting me, and it wasn’t helping us solve anything. I was super clear about it, no beating around the bush. I told him we needed to find a better way to communicate, or things were just going to keep getting worse.
We also tried to set some ground rules. Like, if things started getting heated, we’d take a break, you know? Go to separate rooms, cool off, and then come back and try again. We tried our best to keep our word.
But sometimes, that wasn’t enough. So, I did reach out to a couple of close friends. Just to vent, get some support, you know? It helped to know I wasn’t alone and that other people had gone through similar stuff. It’s not something I’m proud of, to talk about my marriage problems with others, but it did help me release a lot of my negative emotions at that time.
Honestly, it’s still a work in progress. We’ve had some good days and some bad days. But I think the biggest thing was just being really clear about how the yelling made me feel and that it wasn’t acceptable. It’s tough, but I’m trying to stay hopeful that we can figure this out. Marriage is tough work, you know? You can’t expect everything to go smoothly.
- Stay calm: Don’t yell back, take deep breaths.
- Talk it out: When things are calm, explain how the yelling makes you feel.
- Set ground rules: Agree to take breaks when things get heated.
- Seek support: Talk to friends or family.
It’s not easy, but I think it’s worth it to try to make things better. If you’re going through something similar, just know you’re not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help. And hey, if anyone’s got any other tips, let me know! We can all learn from each other, right?
