Okay, so, you guys won’t believe what happened yesterday. Me and my boyfriend, we got into this stupid fight, and it escalated way faster than I thought it would. I mean, we’ve had our disagreements before, who hasn’t, right? But this time, he just started yelling at me. Full-on, raise-the-roof yelling.
It started pretty innocently. I did something that he felt was bad, I tried to explain, he was already in a mood because of something that had happened at work. And then, bam! He just lost it. Started raising his voice, and not in the cute, passionate way, you know? This was full-blown anger, directed right at me.
At first, I was in shock. I tried to calm him down, used my soothing voice and all that jazz. I tried to explain my side of things, thinking that maybe he just didn’t understand. But that didn’t work. Instead of listening, he just got louder. It was like talking to a brick wall, except the wall was screaming back at me.
So, I did what any sane person would do. I yelled back. Yeah, I know, not my proudest moment, but what was I supposed to do? Just stand there and take it? Nope. I matched his energy, and let me tell you, it was a full-blown shouting match. We were both being really loud, and I’m pretty sure our neighbors could hear everything.
Then Things Changed
After a while, though, something shifted. I realized that this wasn’t getting us anywhere. We were just hurting each other, and for what? So, I made a conscious decision to stop. I lowered my voice, took a few deep breaths, and tried a different approach.
I told him, as calmly as I could, that I didn’t appreciate being yelled at. I said that if we were going to have a conversation, it needed to be a respectful one. And you know what? It actually worked. He started to calm down, his voice got quieter, and we were finally able to talk like adults.
- First thing I did: Tried to stay calm when he started yelling. Didn’t work at first.
- Then I: Yelled back. Also not the best move, but hey, I’m human.
- Big change: I decided to stop yelling and tried to talk calmly.
- Finally: He calmed down too, and we actually talked things through.
I learned that yelling is a normal part of relationships, sometimes. I mean people get mad, voices get loud, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed or anything. It just means you’re both human and don’t know how to express yourselves well. But, you know, constant screaming or calling each other names? That’s where it crosses the line. That’s not okay.
It was a rough night, but we talked it out. It took some time, and a lot of patience, but we got through it. So, yeah, that’s my story. Not the most romantic one, but hey, it’s real life, and that’s what I’m all about sharing with you guys.
