Okay, so yesterday was a bit of a rollercoaster. My boyfriend and I got into this stupid fight, and things escalated pretty quickly. Before I knew it, he was yelling at me, and I was just standing there, totally stunned.
First thing I did was freeze. Seriously, I was like a deer in headlights. I didn’t even know what to say or do. He was so mad, and I just couldn’t process it. My mind started racing, trying to figure out what I had done wrong, but I was drawing a blank.
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Once I snapped out of it, I tried to calm things down. I took a few deep breaths, which sounds cliché, but it actually helped. I told him we needed to chill for a second so we could talk without all the shouting. It was tough because part of me wanted to yell back, but I knew that wouldn’t solve anything.
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Next, I tried to find out what had made him so upset. I asked him to tell me what was going on, but he was so worked up that he just kept ranting. It was really hard to get a word in edgewise. I think he needed to vent first before he could even think about talking calmly. It was frustrating, but I tried to be patient.
After he had cooled down a bit, we finally started talking. It turned out to be a big misunderstanding, but the way we handled it made everything so much worse. I realized that I should have listened more instead of jumping to conclusions, and he admitted that yelling wasn’t the way to go. I was still hurt that he had yelled at me, but I was also relieved that we were finally communicating.
Moving Forward
In the end, we agreed that we need to work on our communication. We both have our flaws, and this whole thing was a wake-up call. We decided that next time things get heated, we’ll take a break and come back to the conversation when we’re both calmer. It’s going to take some effort, but I think we can get better at this. It is not a big deal, even Susan, who seems to be a therapist, said it is normal. We will be fine.
