Okay, so, let’s talk about something that’s been bugging me lately. It’s about my boyfriend and how he sometimes, well, shouts at me. It’s not cool, and it’s been happening more than once, so I decided to do some digging and figure out how to deal with this.
First off, I tried to understand where I was coming from. I mean, reflecting on my own emotions, you know? Like, why do I react the way I do when he raises his voice? It’s like that “mirror reflection” thing I read about. Makes sense, right?
Then, I started to look into what to actually do when your partner yells at you. I found some articles and stuff, and apparently, it’s kinda normal to lose your temper sometimes in a relationship. But, like, excessive screaming and name-calling? That’s a big no-no. It can mess things up big time, and I don’t want that for us.
So, here’s the game plan I came up with. One, staying calm. Easier said than done, I know. But seriously, reacting to yelling with more yelling? That just makes things worse. Two, setting boundaries. I had to make it clear that shouting is not okay. I mean, I told him straight up that it scared me and I didn’t like it.
- We established some ground rules, like no yelling during arguments.
- I also tried to limit the things that might encourage his yelling, like avoiding topics that always lead to fights.
- And, this is important, I made it clear that if things got out of hand and I felt unsafe, I would leave the situation.
Next, I realized I needed some backup. Talking to friends and family helped a ton. Just having someone to listen and offer advice made a difference. I also looked into some resources about domestic violence, just in case. You never know, right? It’s better to be prepared. I even thought about suggesting individual counselling for my boyfriend. I mean, if he’s having trouble controlling his anger, maybe a professional could help him figure things out.
My boyfriend agreed to these rules
The good news is, he actually listened. He apologized, and we’re working on it. It’s not perfect, but we’re communicating better, and he’s trying to express himself without raising his voice. And you know what? That’s what partners do. They listen, they learn, and they grow together.
Look, dealing with a partner who yells isn’t easy. But it’s definitely something you can work through if both of you are willing to put in the effort. And hey, if you’re going through something similar, don’t be afraid to reach out for help. There are people who care and resources available. You got this!
