Okay, so, let’s talk about marriage sex counseling. It’s a topic a lot of people shy away from, but it’s something my partner and I decided to try, and I want to share our experience.
It all started pretty normally, I guess. We weren’t really fighting or anything, but things in the bedroom, or lack thereof, were becoming a problem. We love each other, but the spark just wasn’t really there like it used to be. It was awkward to talk about, so we just…didn’t. Eventually, we realized that wasn’t working and that we needed to try to fix things. I remembered hearing about couples counseling a while back, but I found the idea of sitting in a room with a stranger and talking about our sex life pretty daunting. But, we were desperate to make things work, so we decided to go for it.
Finding a counselor was the first hurdle. I looked online, read some reviews, and we picked someone who seemed like they would be a good fit. We filled out some forms beforehand, basic stuff about our relationship history, what we were hoping to achieve, you know, the usual. I felt a little weird typing out our problems but whatever, we were doing this thing.
The first session was, in a word, awkward. We sat in this small office and had to explain to this person, a complete stranger, that we weren’t really having sex and we were here because we wanted to fix that and make our marriage work. She asked us a bunch of questions about our relationship, how long we’d been together, living situation, any prior counseling, and employment stuff, just to get a general picture. We answered as honestly as we could, even though it was uncomfortable at times.
Then came the part where we had to talk about what we wanted individually. Not just in the bedroom, but in our relationship as a whole. This part was actually kind of eye-opening. We talked about things we hadn’t really discussed before, things we wanted to change, things we missed. It was tough, but it felt good to get it all out in the open.
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Setting Goals
After the first meeting, we started to get into the real work. We had to set goals, both as a couple and individually. I won’t lie, it was hard. We had homework, like really talking to each other, spending time together without distractions, and, you know, trying to get the spark back and work through our issues.
It wasn’t a quick fix, and it definitely wasn’t easy. There were some uncomfortable conversations, some tears, and some moments where I wasn’t sure if it was going to work. But, we kept at it. We kept going to the sessions, doing our homework, and slowly, things started to change. We started to communicate better, understand each other better, and, yes, our sex life started to improve. We were being intimate again, not just physically, but emotionally.
We’re still a work in progress, and we have much to do, but marriage sex counseling was definitely a turning point for us. It’s not a magic wand, but it gave us the tools we needed to start fixing things. If you’re struggling in your relationship, especially in the bedroom, I’d say it’s worth considering. It’s tough, but it can really make a difference.
