So, I was messing around with this whole “LL” thing in relationships. It’s like, what does it even mean when people talk about high libido and low libido, right? I saw some stuff online about how it’s all about how often you want to get it on. Like, if one person’s cool with once a month and the other wants it three times, then what?
I started digging into it more, and I guess “LL” has become this shorthand for someone who’s just not that into sex. Which, you know, makes sense. Sex isn’t some kind of given thing in a relationship, I get that now.
What I Tried
- Reading up on it: I spent hours reading articles and forums. People were talking about connection and empathy, not just the physical act.
- Talking to my partner: This was the tough part. We had a real heart-to-heart about what we both need and want. Turns out, it’s not just about the frequency.
- Thinking about my own needs: I realized I was focusing on a checklist of wants instead of what I actually need in a relationship. Things like trust, acceptance, and just feeling like I belong with this person.
Then there’s this whole idea of “I want you” versus “I need you.” “I want you” feels kind of selfish, like it’s all about what I can get. But “I need you”? That’s heavy. It means the other person is important to me, beyond just fulfilling my desires.
My Notes
- It’s about more than just sex: A healthy relationship is built on honesty, trust, respect, and communication.
- Effort from both sides: It’s not a one-way street. We both gotta put in the work and compromise.
- Independence is key: We both need to be our own people and make our own decisions without fearing the other person getting mad or trying to get back at us.
So, yeah, this whole “LL” thing, it’s way more complicated than I thought. It’s not just about how often you’re doing it, but about the whole dynamic of the relationship. And it really got me thinking about what it truly means to be connected to someone.
I am feeling that I need to keep working on this relationship thing. It’s not easy, but I think it’s worth it. After all, who wants to be with someone who doesn’t respect them or make them feel needed? Not me, that’s for sure.
I’ll keep you guys posted on how it goes. It’s a journey, right? And I’m all about sharing the messy, real stuff. No sugarcoating here!
