Alright, let’s talk about relationships. I mean, the real stuff, not just the honeymoon phase crap. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately, mainly because my buddy, let’s call him Jake, has been going through a rough patch with his girlfriend. It got me wondering, should a relationship be this hard?
So, I started digging around, reading articles, you know, the usual late-night internet rabbit hole. I read that relationships need work like you need to put effort into them. But how much is too much? One article said love is easy, life is hard, and relationships require effort. Okay, makes sense.
- I’ve had my share of relationships, some easy breezy, some felt like climbing Mount Everest with a hangover.
- My last relationship started great. We clicked, had fun, and enjoyed each other’s company.
- But then, life happened. Work got stressful, family drama popped up, and we started to drift apart.
- We started arguing about stupid things, like who left the toilet seat up or who ate the last slice of pizza.
I remember one time, I tried to plan a nice weekend getaway, just the two of us, to reconnect and all that jazz. I booked a cabin, bought groceries, and even packed her favorite wine. She ended up canceling last minute because of work. I was pissed, she was stressed, and it was a mess. We tried to talk it out, but it felt like we were speaking different languages.
After a lot of fighting and silent treatments, we decided to call it quits. It sucked, but it felt like a relief, like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. I guess what I learned from that whole experience is that relationships need compromise, communication, and all that stuff, but it should not be a constant battle. It needs emotional connections between two.
Then I looked at my grandparents. They’ve been married for over 50 years, and they still hold hands and make each other laugh. Sure, they’ve had their ups and downs, but they always seem to work things out. They have this “we” attitude, like it’s them against the world. They support each other no matter what happens.
So, what’s the conclusion?
I think relationships should have a bit of effort, but they shouldn’t feel like a constant uphill battle. There will be tough times, but if both people are willing to communicate, compromise, and support each other, it can work. But if it feels like you’re constantly fighting, or you’re the only one putting in the effort, then maybe, just maybe, it’s time to re-evaluate. Love is a two-way street, and both people need to be willing to walk it, hand in hand, even when the road gets a little bumpy. Love is not suffering through cheating or abuse.
That’s my two cents, anyway. I am still figuring this stuff out, but I think I am getting a little closer to understanding what makes a relationship work and what makes it crumble.
