Okay, so I’ve been messing around with this whole “controlling a relationship” idea, and lemme tell ya, it’s been a wild ride. It all started when I noticed some, uh, patterns in my own relationships. Not gonna lie, things felt a bit…off.
The Beginning: Feeling Out of Whack
First, I noticed I was constantly bending over backward for my partner. Like, always. Dinner plans? Their choice. Movie night? Their pick. It was exhausting, and honestly, I started feeling resentful.
- I felt like my needs were always on the back burner.
- I started to question if this was even a partnership anymore.
- I realized I was losing myself in the process.
The Experiment: Taking Back Some Control (Baby Steps!)
So, I decided to try something different. Nothing crazy, just small stuff. One night, I suggested a restaurant I wanted to try. It felt weird, almost rebellious! But guess what? They were totally fine with it. We went, and I actually enjoyed myself.
Next, I started being more vocal about my feelings. Instead of bottling things up, I tried to (gently) explain when something bothered me. This was hard. I’m not a confrontational person, but I pushed myself to do it anyway.
The Results: Still a Work in Progress, But…
It’s not like everything magically changed overnight. There were still some awkward moments, and I definitely messed up a few times. But, I started to feel more…balanced. Like I had a voice again. I think, I am realizing that my needs are important.
- We had some tough conversations, but they were necessary.
- I learned that communication is key (cliché, I know, but true!).
- We began finding our new “Normal” together.
- I realized that “controlling” a relationship isn’t about manipulation, it’s about finding a healthy balance.
It’s still a work in progress, and I’m definitely still learning. But I feel like I’m on the right track. It’s about respecting myself and my needs, while still being a good partner. It’s tough, but I really think it will worth it in the end, and I believe things will be more great.
