So I’ve been getting tons of questions lately about backdoor stuff, especially fingering. People wanna know if it’s safe, how to do it without hurting themselves. Made me realize I should share my own fuck-up story. Figured I’d try it myself and actually write down what happened, good and bad. Safety first, right?
Getting Curious and Jumping In
When I got curious about backdoor play, I just kinda… did it. Didn’t read shit. Figured it’s just a finger, how hard can it be? Wrong. Big wrong. I was clueless about cleaning, stretching, any of that stuff. Slapped some lube on my finger, reached around, and went for it. Felt weird, tight, kinda uncomfortable right away.
I remember thinking, “This ain’t like the front hole at all.” Pushed harder, thinking it just needed to ‘open up’. Bad idea. Real bad. Felt a sharp pain, like a tiny stabbing inside. Yanked my finger out fast. Hurt for like an hour afterwards. Lesson one: Don’t be a dumbass and rush.
Mistake #1: Forgetting the Cleanup Crew
My first big fuck-up? Ignored the prep work. Didn’t even consider cleaning myself back there before playing. Just went straight in after a normal day. Big. Mistake. Ended up getting… well… messy. Totally killed the vibe and was super embarrassing. Had to stop everything and clean up properly. Even felt gross mentally afterwards.
Mistake #2: Acting Like Lube is Optional
Second stupid move? Being stingy with the lube. Used barely any. Thought, “Eh, saliva and a tiny dab should cover it.” NOPE. Anal tissue isn’t self-lubricating like the front. Felt like sandpaper dragging inside immediately. The friction was brutal. It actually burned, like a rug burn inside. Learned real quick: you need WAY more lube than you think, and the good slippery kind designed for butt stuff. Reapplied constantly.
Mistake #3: The “No Warm-Up” Disaster
This was the worst one. Skipped the stretching part. Went straight in with my index finger, fully intending to maybe add another. It was TIGHT. Like, uncomfortable pressure tight. Instead of stopping or going gentle, I pushed through. Curled my finger a bit, thinking I could find a good spot. Bam! Sharp, shooting pain. Felt like I stabbed myself. Yanked my hand away. Had actual soreness for days. Freaked me right out. Should have started super slow, like pinky finger slow, and let things relax first.
What Actually Works (For Me Now)
- Shower Power: I always clean up thoroughly back there with soap and water before even thinking about play.
- Lube Ocean: I coat my finger heavily, reapply constantly, and keep the bottle within arm’s reach.
Baby Steps: Start with gentle pressure around the outside, then slowly work just the fingertip in. Stay there until it feels comfortable before going deeper. One finger is plenty for a long time.
Look, I’m not a doctor, and this ain’t advice. It’s just my dumbass experience learning the hard way. Backdoor fingering can be safe if you don’t skip steps like I did. Listen to your body – if it hurts, stop right fucking now. Turns out it can feel pretty good and totally comfortable… when you do it right. My ass learned that the hard way, so maybe you don’t have to.
