Okay, here’s my sharing about intimacy ideas for married couples:
Intimacy Ideas For Married Couples
Alright, folks, let’s talk about keeping the spark alive in a marriage. It’s tough, right? Life gets in the way, work, kids, bills… you name it. My wife and I, we’ve been there. So, we decided to get intentional about this whole intimacy thing. And let me tell you, it wasn’t just about the bedroom stuff, though that’s part of it, of course.
First, we started with something super simple: a photo show and tell. Sounds a bit silly, I know. We each picked out some old photos, ones that reminded us of good times, and just shared them with each other. It was amazing, man. We laughed, we remembered, and it really brought us back to those early days. No phones allowed, by the way. That was key.
Then, we tried this “appreciation time” thing. Basically, we just took turns telling each other what we appreciate about the other person. It felt a bit awkward at first, I won’t lie. But it actually made a difference. Hearing those words, “I appreciate you because…” it does something, you know? It reminds you why you fell in love in the first place.
And then, the routines. We started small. A kiss goodbye before work, no matter how rushed we are. Sometimes, we make breakfast in bed on Sundays and do the crossword together. It’s not a big deal, but it’s our thing. We also started planning little date nights again, even if it’s just a walk after dinner. These little things, they add up. They become the glue that holds you together, you feel me?
Also, I stumbled upon this “70:30 rule” thing. It’s like, 70% of who you are is about you as an individual, and 30% is about you as a couple. So, we both started focusing on our own stuff again. My wife took up painting, and I started hitting the gym again. It’s weird, but when you’re happier with yourself, you’re just better in the relationship. It’s like, you gotta fill your own cup before you can fill someone else’s, right?
- Photo Show and Tell: We looked at old photos, no phones.
- Appreciation Time: We told each other what we appreciate.
- Routines: Goodbye kisses, breakfast in bed, date nights.
- 70:30 Rule: We focused on ourselves, too.
Finally, we tried this 7-day challenge. It was all about pursuing each other sexually for a week straight. But listen, it wasn’t just about having sex every day. It was about being intentional, being flirty, sending those little texts, leaving little notes… you get the idea. It rekindled something, for sure. It reminded us that we’re not just parents or roommates, but we’re also lovers.
Look, marriage takes work. It’s not always easy. But these little things, these intentional actions, they can make a big difference. It’s about showing up for each other, even when you don’t feel like it. And trust me, it’s worth it. We’re closer now than we’ve been in years, and it feels damn good.
