That emotional bid, you know, it’s like when you’re wanting something from someone. Like, you want them to see you, to hear you, to care about what you’re saying.
What’s this emotional bid thing?
It ain’t fancy, this emotional bid. It’s just, you know, when you try to get someone’s attention. Could be your man, your kids, your friends, anyone. You just want them to notice you. That’s all it is, plain and simple.
Like when my grandson, he comes up to me and says, “Grandma, look!” He wants me to see what he’s doing. That’s a bid, see? He’s asking for my attention. And if I just keep stirring my soup and don’t look, well, that ain’t good. He’ll feel bad, like I don’t care.
- A smile, that’s a bid.
- A touch, that’s a bid too.
- Asking a question, yep, that’s a bid.
- Just wanting to talk, that’s a big bid.
Why’s it matter?
Well, if you don’t pay attention to these bids, people feel like you don’t care. It’s like ignoring them, pushing them away. And nobody likes that, no sir. If you want folks to feel close to you, you gotta pay attention when they reach out.
My old man, bless his soul, he wasn’t good at this. I’d try to tell him something, and he’d just grunt and keep reading his paper. Didn’t seem like he cared what I had to say. Made me feel like a nobody, like I didn’t matter. Emotional connection, that’s what it is. You gotta have it.
It’s important, you know. If you’re always turning away, people stop trying. They stop sharing. They stop caring. And then you’re all alone, and nobody wants that. Trust me, I’ve seen it happen. You need that love, that connection, to keep going. It’s like needing sunshine and water. We all need it, one way or another.
When you show someone you see them, you hear them, you care about what they’re saying, that’s gold. That’s better than any fancy gift. That’s how you build that bond, that connection. That’s what makes life worth living, having folks who care about you and who you care about, too.
How you do it?
It ain’t rocket science. Just listen, really listen, when someone talks to you. Look them in the eye. Put down your phone or whatever you’re doing and pay attention. That’s all it takes, most times.
- Pay attention, that’s number one.
- Show you care, even if it’s just a little nod.
- Ask questions, show you’re interested.
- Don’t just sit there like a bump on a log.
If someone’s showing you something, like my grandson with his drawings, you gotta look. You gotta say something nice. You gotta show you care. That’s what they’re asking for, that’s their bid for connection.
Sometimes, people just want you to listen. They got something on their mind, something bothering them. They don’t need you to fix it, they just need you to hear them out. That’s a bid too, a big one. And you gotta be there for them, even if it’s just to hold their hand and let them talk. The fundamental unit of emotional communication, that’s what it is.
Love grows with it
You know, this whole emotional bid thing, it makes love grow. It’s like watering a plant. If you don’t water it, it’ll wither up and die. Same with love. You gotta show it, you gotta nurture it, you gotta pay attention to those bids. It creates a bond that is rooted in mutual respect.
It’s not just about the big things, like birthdays and anniversaries. It’s about the little things, the everyday things. A kind word, a gentle touch, a listening ear. That’s what makes a relationship strong. That’s what makes it last.
That’s where the real love is, the deep down kind that lasts forever. It’s about knowing someone sees you, hears you, cares about you, just the way you are. That’s a powerful thing, that is. That emotional intimacy, it’s what we all want, really. It’s what makes us feel safe, feel loved, feel like we belong. And it all starts with paying attention to those little bids. So next time someone reaches out to you, remember this old lady’s words. Pay attention, show you care, and watch your relationships blossom. It’s a simple thing, but it makes all the difference in the world. You can build trust, intimacy, all that good stuff, just by paying attention to these emotional bids. So don’t be a fool, pay attention.
