Okay, here’s my blog post about “Why Does My Hot Girlfriend Love Me?”
Alright, so I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. My girlfriend is, well, objectively hot. And I’m… me. A perfectly average dude. So, naturally, the question pops up: Why me? I decided to actually try and figure this out, not just shrug it off.
Phase 1: The Deep Dive (aka Overthinking It)
First, I started by just brainstorming. Like, literally making a list. What could it be? I grabbed a notebook and jotted down everything I could think of, no matter how dumb it seemed.
- Sense of humor? (I mean, I think I’m funny…)
- Good listener? (I try to be!)
- Kindness? (Definitely a work in progress, but I aim for it.)
- Shared interests? (We do both love terrible reality TV…)
- Good in a crisis? (I can handle a spilled coffee pretty well.)
- My amazing cooking skills? (Okay, mostly just instant ramen.)
Honestly, the list wasn’t super impressive. I felt like I was grasping at straws.
Phase 2: The Observation Stage
So, list-making wasn’t cutting it. I decided to be more… observant. Like a nature documentary, but about my relationship. I paid extra attention to how we interacted. When did she laugh the hardest? What did we actually do together? What did she compliment me on?
I noticed a few things. She really did laugh at my stupid jokes, even the ones I thought were terrible. We spent a lot of time just talking, about everything and nothing. And she often mentioned how much she appreciated that I actually listened when she was venting about work or whatever.
Phase 3: The (Slightly Awkward) Conversation
Okay, this was the scary part. I actually asked her. Not in a “WHY DO YOU EVEN LIKE ME?!” kind of way, but more casually. I think I phrased it something like, “Hey, what are some of your favorite things about us, or about me?” Smooth, right?
Her answer surprised me. It wasn’t one big thing, but a bunch of little things. She said I made her feel safe and comfortable. That I was genuinely kind, even when I didn’t think anyone was looking. That I was supportive of her dreams, even the crazy ones. And yeah, she confirmed, I am pretty funny (sometimes).
Phase 4: The Realization
After all that thinking, observing, and slightly awkward questioning, I finally got it. It’s not about being “worthy” in some objective way. It’s about connection. It’s about the little things, the everyday moments. It’s about being a good partner, a good friend, a good person (most of the time!).
It’s not about some grand, magical quality. It’s about showing up, being present, and being real. And maybe, just maybe, being able to make a decent bowl of instant ramen.
