My Girlfriend Loves Small Surprises
Alright, so last month I kinda messed up. Forgot our little “monthaversary” thing. Not the actual date, just… didn’t mark it special enough. My girlfriend, bless her heart, she just gave me that look. You know the one – kinda disappointed but trying not to show it? Yeah. Felt like garbage. So, I started digging online. How do other guys show love every single day? Found tons of big romantic stuff, all fancy dinner and trips. Nah, that ain’t sustainable for me. Broke and busy, right?
Stumbled across this idea of tiny, daily gestures. Five easy ones? Sounded too good to be true, but hey, worth a shot. Made a promise to myself: Gotta try this for real. Just small stuff, every single day, no excuses. Wrote down these five simple things:
- Something nice to see (a little note)
- Something sweet to hear (a proper compliment)
- Thinking of her randomly (a surprise)
- Doing one small helpful thing
- A quick touch or hug (that ain’t just habit)
Day One felt awkward. Left work dead tired. The note thing first. Grabbed a random post-it. What to write? Brain froze. Ended up scribbling “Hope your presentation crushed it!
Complimenting her properly was HARD. Not the usual “nice dress” stuff. Later that evening, she was ranting about some coworker. Actually listening, not just nodding. Then just said, “Seriously babe, the way you handled that? Super impressive. You’re way more patient than me.” She stopped mid-sentence, looked surprised, then grinned. “Yeah? Huh. Thanks.” Awkwardness level dropped.
Mid-week, almost forgot the “thinking of you” surprise. Grabbed her favorite kinda snack bar randomly at the gas station. Got home, walked right past her desk and just dropped it there like it was nothing. “Oh! The banana nut ones! Score! What’s this for?” she asked. “Nothin’, just saw it and thought you might want it.” Simple. Effective. Took maybe 5 seconds.
The “small helpful thing”? Found a gold mine: doing stuff she hates. Like, filling her water bottle before bed. She always forgets. Started just doing it before I crashed. Zero effort for me. Huge deal for her waking up thirsty. “Did you…? Oh my god, YES! Thank you!” Win.
The touch/hug thing? That was sneaky. Not just the usual bye kiss. When I got home later than her, instead of collapsing on the sofa, walked straight to her, wrapped arms around her waist (while she was washing dishes!), kissed her temple, and just said “Hey you.” Held it for like 3 extra seconds. Felt her kinda melt into it. That was way better than just yelling “Hey” from the door.
Kept this up. Honestly, some days were phone-it-in days. But just committing to those five tiny things? Changed the vibe. No grand gestures. Just steady, small bits of attention she could actually notice daily. She started leaving me little notes back. Random texts saying “Thinking of you
