Okay, so, let’s talk about getting over an affair. It’s a mess, right? A total emotional rollercoaster. When I found out, it felt like the ground just dropped out from under me. I was devastated, confused, and, frankly, pretty pissed off. The first thing I did was just… freeze. I couldn’t believe this was happening. It was like a bad dream, and I kept hoping I’d wake up.
After the initial shock, I knew I had to do something. I couldn’t just sit there wallowing in self-pity. So, I started reaching out.
- Talking to people who’ve been there: I found some online forums and support groups where people shared their stories about dealing with infidelity. Reading about others’ experiences made me feel less alone. It was comforting to know that I wasn’t the only one going through this and that people had managed to get through it.
- Being Honest with my Partner: I decided to be completely honest with my partner about how I was feeling. No sugarcoating, just raw, unfiltered emotions. It was tough, and we had some really hard conversations.
- Therapy became my friend: I started seeing a therapist, both individually and with my partner. I gotta say, this was a game-changer. The therapist created a safe space for us to talk, vent, and try to understand what the hell had happened. It wasn’t easy. There were tears, arguments, and moments when I wanted to give up.
During all of this, I was also going through my own internal battle. I kept blaming myself, wondering what I had done wrong. But my therapist helped me see that it wasn’t my fault. That self-blame is a real monster, and it eats you up from the inside. I had to work hard on rebuilding my self-worth. It was a long and difficult process, but I did it.
Forgiveness is key, but it’s tough
One of the hardest things was figuring out how to forgive. Not just my partner, but also myself. I was so angry and bitter, and holding onto that was like drinking poison. It took a lot of time and effort, but I eventually started to let go of the resentment. It wasn’t about excusing what happened, but about freeing myself from the pain.
It’s been a long, bumpy road, and I’m still on it. Some days are better than others. But I can honestly say that I’m in a much better place now than I was before. I’ve learned a lot about myself, my strength, and my capacity to heal. Getting over an affair isn’t easy, but it’s possible. It takes time, effort, and a whole lot of self-compassion. But trust me, you can get through it. Just remember, you’re not alone, and it’s okay to ask for help.
