Getting Started with Trying New Things in the Bedroom
So, my partner and I hit a bit of a routine patch a while back. Wasn’t bad, you know, just… the same. We talked about it, felt a bit awkward at first, but figured we should try mixing things up. Someone, maybe a friend or something I read, mentioned trying out different positions. Sounded complicated, honestly. We weren’t exactly gymnasts.
We decided to look up some ‘beginner’ stuff. Didn’t want anything crazy involving chandeliers or advanced yoga moves. Just simple things to start. The first one we tried was supposedly easy – ‘Missionary with a Pillow’. Seemed simple enough, right? Just stick a pillow under her hips.
Finding the right pillow was the first challenge. Too flat, did nothing. Too thick, felt weirdly angled. Took a couple of attempts, swapping pillows from the sofa, laughing a bit because it felt kinda silly, like we were building furniture. Finally found one that worked okay. It did change the angle, felt a bit different, deeper maybe? Yeah, it was alright. Added a small twist to the usual.
Next up, we thought about ‘Spooning’. We do that just sleeping sometimes, so how hard could it be?
- Getting lined up right took a minute.
- Figuring out where arms and legs go without cutting off circulation was key.
- It was… comfy. Really intimate, close. Not super energetic, but nice and relaxed. Good for a lazy morning, maybe.
Then there was the ‘Woman on Top’ variation. She was hesitant at first, felt a bit self-conscious about ‘leading’. We talked it through, I told her just go with what feels good, don’t worry about looking a certain way.
Honestly, communication was the biggest thing. More than the actual positions. Checking in, asking ‘is this okay?’, ‘how does that feel?’. Sometimes we’d try something and it just didn’t click. One leg-up thing looked simple in a diagram but felt like playing Twister. We just laughed and stopped. No big deal.
What We Learned
It wasn’t really about becoming experts in a hundred positions. It was more about breaking the routine and actually talking about what we liked or didn’t like. We found maybe two or three simple variations we actually enjoyed and stuck with them for a while.
The whole ‘beginner poses’ thing was less about the poses themselves and more about just opening the door to trying anything new together. And realizing it’s okay if something feels awkward or doesn’t work. Just moving on to the next thing, or going back to what’s comfortable. The main thing was we did it together, had a few laughs, and felt closer afterwards. That was the real win.
