Okay, here’s my take on sharing my experience, following your instructions and example:
So, the wife’s been hinting. You know, the subtle (and not-so-subtle) nudges about needing more “us” time. More spark. I get it. Life gets in the way, we get comfortable, and sometimes the romance part takes a backseat. Time to fix that.
I decided to start small, but deliberate. No grand gestures, just consistent effort. First thing, I started paying attention to her days. What is that mean? I did.
- Ask Real Questions: “How was work, really?” Not just a passing comment, but actually sitting down and listening to her. I realized I was often just going through the motions.
- Offer Help, Without Being Asked: She’s juggling a million things. I saw the laundry piling up, so I just…did it. No fanfare, no expecting a medal, just took care of it. Small, I know, but it matters.
Warming the place up
Next, I tackled the physical side. This isn’t just about, you know, that. It’s about creating an atmosphere of closeness. I made it a point to improve atmosphere.
- Hold Hands, More: When we’re walking the dog, watching TV, whatever. Just reaching out and holding her hand. Re-establishing that physical connection.
- Hugs That Linger: Not the quick, perfunctory kind. The kind where you actually wrap your arms around her and hold on for a few extra seconds. It’s amazing how much of a difference that makes.
- Give Compliments: For example, I started it with “You look beautiful today.”.
Surprise!
She likes surprises. Who doesn’t? But I’m not talking about diamonds here (though, those are nice too, eventually). More like, little thoughtful things.
- Her Favorite Flowers:I grabbed a small bunch of her favorite flowers. Didn’t wait for an occasion, just because. Put them in a vase on the kitchen table.
- Her favorite Sweet Treat: She loves those fancy chocolates from that place downtown. I stopped by and got her a small box. Again, no reason, just because I was thinking of her.
Making Time
We used to have date nights, religiously. Then, life happened. Kids, work, you name it. Time to bring that back.
- Scheduled It: I put it on the calendar. Friday night, dinner at that little Italian place she likes. No phones, no distractions, just us.
- Got a Babysitter:This, my friends, is crucial. No worrying about the kids, no interruptions. Just focused on each other.
The Results?
It’s not a one-and-done thing. It’s a constant effort. But I can already see a difference. She’s smiling more, initiating contact more. We’re talking more, really connecting. It’s like we’re rediscovering each other, and it’s pretty damn amazing. It’s not about grand gestures, it’s about the little things, done consistently. That’s the real romance, the kind that lasts.
So I will keep on doing above the things.
