Okay, so, let’s talk about choking during sex. It’s gotten pretty popular, and I wanted to see what the fuss was about. So, I did some digging, talked to my partner, and we decided to give it a try.
First, communication is key. We talked about it a lot beforehand. We set up safe words, and hand signals, and really made sure we were both comfortable with the idea. This isn’t something you just spring on someone. We were open and honest about the boundaries.
Getting Started
- We started slow. Like, really slow. I just gently placed my hand on their throat, no pressure at first, just to get used to the feeling of it.
- I paid attention to any visual changes in the face.
- Then, I added the tiniest bit of pressure. Just enough to feel a little restriction, not enough to actually stop their breathing. It’s more about the sensation than actually cutting off air.
- I kept my fingers on the sides of their neck, near the carotid arteries. Don’t press on the windpipe! That’s a recipe for disaster.
- We constantly checked in with each other. Lots of eye contact, asking “Are you okay?”, and being ready to stop at any second. I released my grip frequently.
It’s not an all the time kind of fun time. As my partner got more into it, I increased the pressure slightly, but always, always paying attention to their reactions. Their breathing, their facial expressions, everything. If they tapped my hand, I let go instantly. No questions asked.
It’s All About Trust
Honestly, the biggest part of this is trust. You have to completely trust the person you’re with, and they have to trust you. You’re literally putting someone’s life in their hands, so you better be damn sure you’re both on the same page.
It’s not for everyone, and that’s totally okay. But if you’re both curious and you approach it with caution and respect, it can be a pretty intense experience. Just remember: communication, safety, and trust are the most important things.
