Okay, so I’ve been trying out this thing called an “emotional bank account,” and let me tell you, it’s been quite a ride. It all started when I realized I needed to do a better job at, well, connecting with people. You know, really understanding them and making them feel appreciated.
First, I started paying more attention to the little things, what some folks call “sliding glass door moments.” These are just small moments in your day, a few minutes here and there, where you can choose to engage with someone or not. For example, my wife would say something about her day, and instead of just nodding along, I actually listened and asked questions. It felt awkward at first, not gonna lie, but it was a start.
My Little Experiment
- Paying Attention: I really tried to be present when people were talking to me. No more zoning out or thinking about my to-do list.
- Small Gestures: I started doing little things, like bringing my friend his favorite coffee when I knew he was having a rough day or sending a quick text to my sister just to say hi.
- Understanding Triggers: This one was tough. I had to figure out what things made me feel good and what drained me. Turns out, spending time in nature really fills my emotional bank, while endless meetings… not so much.
It wasn’t easy. Some days, I felt like I was failing miserably. But I kept at it, trying to be more mindful of my interactions. Then, I noticed something interesting. People started responding differently to me. My wife seemed happier, my friend more open, and even my interactions with strangers became more positive. It’s a work in progress. I have to keep the energy up to work on it. I’m still learning, still making mistakes, but I think I’m onto something here. It’s like, the more I put into these relationships, the more I get back, not in a transactional way, but in a way that makes me and the people I love, maybe love life a little more.
This whole “emotional bank account” thing isn’t about being perfect. It’s about making an effort, showing up, and being a little more human. And honestly, it feels pretty darn good.
