Alright folks, here’s the lowdown on something I’ve been working on in the bedroom – specifically getting better at giving oral pleasure down south. Yeah, I’m talking about rimming. My partner and I wanted to spice things up, so I figured I’d put some real effort into upping my technique. No experts here, just trial and error like usual! Here’s how it went down.
Starting Point: Figuring Out the Basics
First, I gotta admit, I was kinda flying blind before. Just going for it, hoping for the best. Didn’t really have a plan. Felt super awkward at first, both for me and probably for them. Started realizing hygiene is Step Zero, you know? Gotta be super clean. Like, really thorough shower, getting back there spotless. Makes everyone feel way more comfortable diving in. That became rule number one: Serious scrub-down beforehand, no shortcuts.
The Practice Sessions (Yeah, Plural)
Okay, so talked it over with my partner – open communication is key, obviously. We agreed on a sign if anything felt off, just a tap on the shoulder meaning “pause.” Safety net sorted.
Started slow. Real slow. Like, way slower than I thought necessary. First try was basically just hovering near the area, maybe some very gentle kisses around it. Felt super clumsy. My neck? Killing me! Realized I needed to get comfy. Pillows under knees, adjusting positions for good access without throwing my back out. Mission critical.
Next session, actually tried making contact. Used my tongue flat at first, kinda broad licks. Pressure? Light as a feather. My partner liked it okay, but said it felt “nice, but… vague?” Okay, good feedback.
Experimented then with different tongue moves:
- Circles: Small ones, like licking an ice cream cone but much gentler. Clockwise, counter-clockwise.
- Flicking: Quicker, little darts. Need to be careful not to jab!
- More Pressure? Tried pushing a bit more with a broader tongue area. Got a better response – “Mmm, that’s different.”
Remembered to keep my lips soft too, so it’s not just the tongue working.
Key thing I learned? Breathing through the nose is non-negotiable. Sounds basic, but forgetting it makes everything weird.
Mixing It Up and Seeing What Sticks
Biggest breakthrough moment? Changing up the rhythm and pressure randomly. Didn’t just do circles forever. Would do circles for a bit, then switch to slow broad licks with more pressure, then maybe some super light flicking for sensation. Basically, kept them guessing. The surprise element seemed to be a major plus.
Also, paid attention to their body. Squirming more? Little moans? Okay, probably on the right track. No reaction? Maybe switch tactics or double-check everything’s cool.
Another tip I incorporated – using hands. Gentle pressure with fingertips near the area, or stroking elsewhere at the same time. Helps connect everything and adds another layer of sensation.
The End Result (So Far…)
After a few dedicated attempts (and probably more neck pain than I’d like!), the feedback started shifting. “Nice” became “Really good” and then “Wow, don’t stop!” Those little involuntary shivers and moans became the soundtrack. My partner specifically commented on the variety of motions and how the shifting sensations kept them super engaged. Felt like I finally got past the awkwardness and started actually performing the technique instead of just doing it. Definitely a confidence boost!
My Top 5 Takeaway Tips
Based purely on my own experience, messing up, and figuring it out:
- Cleanliness is Non-Negotiable: Seriously, scrub everything obsessively. Both partners feel better.
- Comfort First: Get your position right. Neck and back cramps kill the mood faster than anything.
- Start Slow & Gentle: No bulldozer approaches. Ease into contact and pressure.
- Mix Up Your Tongue Game: Circles, broad licks, flicks, different pressures. Don’t get stuck on one thing. Variety is the spice!
- Listen & Adapt: Watch their body, listen for sounds (or lack thereof!), and be ready to change what you’re doing. Communication is ongoing.
It’s work, but man, the payoff when you see them reacting? Worth every weird experimental minute. Still learning, always tweaking!
