Alright, so I’ve been trying to get my hubby to be a bit more lovey-dovey. It wasn’t like he was a rock or anything, but I just wanted a bit more of that warm, fuzzy stuff, you know?
First, I started to pay attention to when he was being affectionate. Like, did he give me a quick hug when he got home? Did he hold my hand when we were out? Once I started to notice those little things, I made sure to tell him how much I loved it. Simple stuff like, “Hey, I really love it when you hold my hand. It makes me feel so close to you.”
Then, I tried to ramp up the affection on my end. I started giving him more hugs, just because. I’d snuggle up to him on the couch when we were watching TV, even if we weren’t watching anything particularly romantic. I also made a point to tell him how much I love him and how much he means to me, just randomly throughout the day.
I also thought about his “love language.” You know, that whole thing about how people show and receive love in different ways? I realized that maybe my husband just wasn’t a super touchy-feely guy by nature. Maybe he showed his love in other ways, like doing things for me or buying me little gifts. So I started to appreciate those things more, and I made sure to thank him for them and tell him how much they meant to me.
- I tried to create a more romantic atmosphere at home. You know, lighting some candles, putting on some music, that sort of thing.
- I initiated physical touch more often, like giving him a back rub or just holding his hand while we were talking.
- I made sure to tell him how much I appreciate him, even for the little things he does around the house.
- I planned a few special date nights, just the two of us, to reconnect and have some quality time together.
But here’s the kicker: I also had to accept that I can’t change him. He is who he is, and if he’s not naturally super affectionate, that’s okay. I can’t force him to be someone he’s not.
I also had a talk with him. A real, honest conversation. I told him that I’d been feeling like I wanted a little more affection in our relationship, and I asked him if there was anything going on that was making him pull away. It turned out he was stressed about work. Who knew? We talked it out, and he made an effort to be more affectionate, and I made an effort to be more understanding about his stress. We started spending more time together, just the two of us. We’d go for walks, watch movies, or just sit and talk. And you know what? It really made a difference.
Communication is Key
It wasn’t always easy. There were times when I felt like I was putting in all the effort and not getting much in return. But I kept at it, and slowly but surely, things started to change. He started to open up more, to be more affectionate on his own. He started holding my hand more often, giving me more hugs, and telling me he loved me more often. It wasn’t a huge change overnight, but it was definitely progress.
So yeah, it took some time, some effort, and a whole lot of communication, but I think I’m finally getting the hang of this whole “how to get your husband to be more affectionate” thing. And you know what? It’s been totally worth it. I feel closer to my husband than ever before, and our relationship is stronger than ever.
