So I decided to finally try exploring this self-touch thing properly. Like, just for myself? Honestly felt kinda weird at first, but curiosity won out. Started simple – washed my hands super well, trimmed my nails short, ’cause nobody wants scratches down there. Grabbed some lube too since I heard friction sucks. Locked my bedroom door and turned off notifications. Needed zero distractions.
Getting Started Was Awkward
Just lying there touching myself felt… forced. Like trying to tickle yourself? Didn’t work. So I relaxed into it. Took slow breaths and just ran fingers over my belly, thighs – everywhere except the main spot first. Let my body kinda wake up naturally. Didn’t rush anything. Took maybe 10 mins before I even got near my actual vulva. Felt less weird once I stopped overthinking it.
Figuring Out What Felt Good
Started exploring the outer lips with one fingertip, super light circles. Just… familiarizing, ya know? Found this sensitive spot higher up near my pubic bone – like a little buzz when touched. Didn’t expect that! Used lube around my clit but avoided direct contact right away. Learned real quick:
- Going straight for the clit = too much, felt sharp
- Rubbing the hood gently with lots of lube first = way better start
- Using the pad of my finger felt softer than the tip
- Slow circles > fast back-and-forth scratching
Experimented with pressure – barely touching vs pressing firmer. Different movements – side-to-side, tiny circles, up-and-down. What clicked? A mix: light swirls around the area to start, then firm circular rubs on the hood using my middle finger. Built up slowly. Felt a warm tension spreading.
Going Deeper Eventually
Wasn’t even thinking about penetration at first, just focused on the outside feels. Later got curious about inside. Used more lube – way more than I thought needed. One finger, pointing kinda downwards (toward my butt, not up my belly!). Went SUPER slow. Just the tip, paused. Felt… tight? But not painful. Relaxed muscles deliberately.
Let my finger slide in deeper naturally as I got used to the feeling. Crooked it a bit toward my belly button side while inside. Found this slightly rougher spot? Massaged it gently with the pad of my finger – slow come-hither pulls. Combined that with still rubbing my clit with my thumb? Game changer. Felt that tension spike hard.
Finished sweaty and giggly. Whole thing took me like 30+ mins total? Messy? Hell yeah. Worth it? Absolutely. Biggest takeaway: exploring isn’t linear – had to stop, adjust, try different crap until something clicked. Zero shame in quitting halfway if it didn’t feel right. Your body, your damn rules. Eff anyone who says different.
