Okay, let’s talk about figuring out clit stuff. Seriously, this used to trip me up so bad. My ex would kinda wiggle away like “nah it’s cool” when I fumbled, and I knew I was missing something. So I started paying attention, experimenting slowly.
The Lightbulb Moment
First big mistake? Going straight for the fireworks. Jumped right in like I was pushing buttons on a damn microwave. Wrong. Started doing this instead:pressing my whole palm flat over her underwear first, not just fingers. Like warm-up laps, y’know? Added circles with my palm over the fabric for a minute while kissing her neck. Felt her breathing shift – good sign.
Slid my hand down her underwear real slow. Didn’t rush to the spot. Touched everywhere BUT the clit first – inner thighs, lower belly, the crease where leg meets body. Built up tension like winding a spring.
Finding the Sweet Spot
When I finally touched the actual clit? Kept my finger slippery with her natural wetness. Dabbed it around nearby first like testing bathwater. Started with the lightest circles imaginable – seriously, like barely brushing dust off a vinyl record. Watched her face and hip movements like hawk. When she arched up? I stayed right there.
- Started stupidly slow: fingertip tracing feather-light ovals
- Added lube halfway through (spit works fine, no shame)
- Pressed DOWN on pubic bone ABOVE the clit with my palm while fingering – huge difference!
When Things Kicked Off
Noticed her legs trembling? Dialed UP the pace gradually, matching her rocking. Switched to side-to-side flicks instead of circles when she got louder. Key thing? Kept my touch steady even when she bucked. No pulling back like scared rabbit. Put slight pressure on that mound with heel of hand while fingers worked – total gamechanger. Whole body tense, then boom. Mission accomplished.
Biggest takeaway? It ain’t about gymnastic finger skills. Chill the hell out, pay attention under your hand, start insultingly gentle. Now my girl grabs my wrist to keep going instead of squirming away. Practice makes less awkward.
