Okay, so things with the wife had gotten a bit stale. You know, the usual routine, day in, day out. We weren’t fighting or anything, but that spark, that excitement we had when we were younger? It felt like it was fading. I missed her, even though she was right there. I really love my wife but I felt that I needed to do something to light that fire.
I started small. Like, really small. I made her coffee in the morning. Not just any coffee, but the way she likes it, with that extra shot of espresso and a little bit of cinnamon. She likes it that way. I noticed that she usually makes her own coffee but I just did it for her.
Then, I started leaving her little notes. Nothing fancy, just dumb stuff like “You look beautiful today” or “Thinking about you.” I tucked them into her purse, left them on the bathroom mirror, or stuck them on the fridge. Just little messages to say that she is still the one I love.
Next, I planned a date night. We hadn’t had a proper date in ages. I booked a table at that little Italian place she loves, the one we went to on our first anniversary. I even remembered to buy her flowers beforehand – her favorite, lilies. The food was good and we had a great talk, and I booked another dinner next week.
- Tried to be more present. When she talked, I actually listened. I put my phone down, turned off the TV, and really paid attention. It’s amazing how much you miss when you’re distracted.
- I know it sounds stupid but sometimes I just stare at my phone and ignore her, I stopped doing that.
- Started helping out more around the house. Did the dishes, took out the trash, folded laundry. She works hard too, and I realized I wasn’t always pulling my weight. I should have done this long ago.
- Made an effort to be more affectionate. Held her hand while we were watching TV, gave her a hug for no reason, kissed her good morning and goodnight. Just those little physical touches that say “I love you.” I think I became lazy about this and took things for granted.
It wasn’t like a switch flipped, and suddenly everything was perfect. But slowly, surely, I started to see a change. She smiled more, laughed more. We talked more, really talked, like we used to. And she would leave me little notes too!
I realized that falling back in love with my wife wasn’t about grand gestures or expensive gifts. It was about the little things, the everyday moments of connection and appreciation. It was about choosing to see her, really see her, and choosing to love her, every single day. It takes work, but it’s the best damn work I’ve ever done.
And you know what? I think she started falling back in love with me, too. We are not done yet and will keep doing what we are doing. We feel so much better. It’s like we’re dating again, but with all the comfort and history of a long, loving marriage. It’s a good feeling, a really, really good feeling.
If you are feeling the same as me, give it a try!
If you think your marriage is a little off, you should give this a try too. It is not hard and you will remember why you fell in love with your wife in the first place. The spark is still there, you just have to find it again.
