Okay, so here’s the deal. I got curious about rough stuff, right? But safety ain’t optional. So I dug in, tried some moves myself, and jotted down what actually worked without ending in disaster.
Setting Up the Basics
First thing, I hauled my partner into the living room – no bedroom, better lighting. Sat ’em down, cracked open a beer, and laid it out: “Look, wanna try spicing things up? But zero pressure, and we stop the second someone blinks wrong.” We talked hard limits like choking pressure or leaving marks, and made the damn safe word crystal – “PINEAPPLE”. Sounded stupid but stuck in your head.
Starting Slow & Steady
Next night, we dimmed the lights. Started basic: firm hair pulling. Not yanking like a WWE match – wrapped a fist near the scalp first, then tugged steady pressure downward. Partner gasped, but the thumbs-up? Hell yeah. Key was keeping fingers spread so it grips evenly, no accidental ripping.
Moved to spanking. Had ‘em bent over the bed, jeans still on. Palms flat, aimed ONLY at the fleshy butt cheeks – avoids tailbone or kidneys. Started light, built intensity slowly. If they tensed up, I paused. Practiced alternating cheeks until the rhythm felt smooth, not chaotic.
Leveling Up (Carefully)
Week later, introduced pinning. We did this on the couch first with clothes on – less intense. Pushed their wrists firmly above their head, elbows soft to avoid shoulder strain. Held for 10 seconds, released. Checked in: “Too much?” If they nodded relaxed, held longer next round. If the grip slipped, readjusted – slippery wrists suck.
The Choke Debate
Okay, choking’s touchy. Researched like crazy. Settled on the hand-on-throat illusion. Thumb under the chin, fingers resting lightly on the SIDES of the neck – zero pressure on the windpipe. Just looked dominant, felt tight but let breath flow easy. Practiced first with partner nodding “yes” to each finger placement. A real choke? Hard pass for us.
Aftercare Isn’t Optional
Soon as we wrapped up, I dropped the act. Grabbed water, a blanket, and just held ‘em quiet for 20 minutes. Didn’t talk mechanics, just whispered “You good?” Rubbed their shoulders gentle to ease any muscle tension from the positions. Always had chocolate nearby – stupid? Maybe. But it resets the vibe hard.
The Takeaway
Done right? Rough stuff amps the thrill. Screwed it up once – pushed too fast, spanking landed low near the tailbone. Partner yelped, we stopped instantly. Learned: Rushing wrecks it. Slow buildup, constant check-ins, respecting the damn safe word? That’s where the fun lives. Feels wild without the hospital trip.
