Okay, guys, let’s dive into this. No beating around the bush, we’re talking about going down on a woman. I’m just sharing what’s worked for me, alright? This is my personal experience.
First things first, communication is key. Seriously. I always, always ask what she likes. Straight up. “What feels good to you?” or “Anything you really enjoy?” Don’t be shy. It’s sexy to care about her pleasure.
Next, I get comfortable. I usually position myself so that i can rest easily, Sometimes I’ll even prop my head up with my hand or elbows for a more comfortable and sustainable * don’t want to cramp up mid-session, right?
I’m a big fan of starting slow. No need to rush in like a jackhammer. I like to start with some kissing, maybe some light caressing, and then I’ll gently move my way down. Teasing is a big part of it for me.
Once I’m there, I pay attention. Every woman is different. Some like it gentle, some like it a bit rougher. I try to find the clitoris with my tongue and start with soft, slow licks. Like, imagine you’re tasting the most delicious thing in the world. You wouldn’t just gobble it down, right?
- I usually start with gentle circles. Up and down, side to side. Just really exploring and seeing what gets a reaction.
- Then, I’ll mix it up. Some flicking with the tip of my tongue. Some longer, slower strokes. I don’t stay in one spot too long.
- And I always use my hands. I’ll gently spread her labia apart, maybe stimulate other areas at the same time. It’s about the whole package, not just one spot.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is to listen to her body. Is she moaning? Arching her back? Tensing up? Those are all good signs. If she’s quiet or still, I’ll usually check in. “How’s this?” or even just a simple “Mmm?” to get some feedback.
I also vary the pressure. Sometimes I’ll press a little harder with my tongue, sometimes I’ll barely graze her. It’s about finding that sweet spot that drives her wild.
And for the love of god, don’t forget about the rest of her body! I’ll kiss her inner thighs, maybe give her a little nibble here and there. The whole point is to make her feel amazing, head to toe.
Lastly, I don’t rush the ending. I’ll keep going until she’s really close, and then I’ll either keep up the same rhythm or maybe even speed it up a little, depending on what she wants. And when she does climax, I don’t just stop. I’ll usually keep going for a bit, maybe a little gentler, just to make sure she’s fully satisfied.
It took me a while, and a few different partners, to really get the hang of it. But the key, for me, has always been communication, paying attention, and just genuinely wanting to make her feel good.
