The idea popped into my head…
Alright folks, so yesterday evening felt kinda… flat. Ya know? Me and my partner were just going through the usual motions. Later, while scrolling, this title about spicing things up tonight jumped out. Figured, screw it, why not actually try some of those freaky-but-easy tips instead of just reading? Made a mental note of a few that seemed doable without a trip to the store.
Laying the groundwork
First things first, after dinner, I casually mentioned wanting to try “something a little different tonight.” Got a curious eyebrow raise and a “like what?” Phew, green light! Didn’t over-explain, just said “wait and see.” Played it cool.
Then, I grabbed two things:
- A bottle of massage oil we had tucked away (dusty! hadn’t touched it in ages).
- My phone with a specific playlist already queued – not just bedroom jazz, but stuff with a slower, heavier beat.
Starting simple
After the usual wind-down stuff, I dimmed the bedroom lights way down. Like, barely-see-your-hand dark. Clicked on the playlist – the bass kicked in gently. Partner laughed a little nervously. “New mood music?”
Started slow. Just hugged from behind, real close, breathing against the neck. Way longer than usual. Didn’t rush. Felt a shiver – good sign. Then, whispered “roll over.” Hesitated for a second, but they did.
Mixing in the freaky-but-easy part
Okay, here’s where I got creative. Grabbed the massage oil. Instead of just rubbing the back… poured a thin trail straight down the spine. Cold! Got a surprised little gasp. Used just the very tips of my fingers to spread it super slowly up and down. Super light touch, almost tickling. Focused on areas we usually skip – backs of knees, inner elbows. Took freaking forever.
Then, flipped the script. Sat back, put the oil in THEIR hand. Murmured “my turn.” Made them trace the same weirdly slow paths on ME. The touch felt totally different when you’re not controlling it. Kinda intense just lying there.
Taking it a little further
One suggestion I saw involved breath control. Felt weird, but I tried it. While they were doing the slow massage, leaned in close to the ear and whispered “Hold your breath when I touch here…” traced a finger lightly over the collarbone. Partner held it! Like actually did it. Only a few seconds, but felt… forbidden? When they released it, the gasp was audible.
Took turns with this stupid breath-holding trick on different spots for maybe ten minutes. Sounds silly writing it down, but in the moment, that simple command felt wildly powerful.
How it actually went down
Honestly? It wasn’t some movie scene. We bumped heads laughing when trying to pour more oil awkwardly. The playlist had one weird song that made us both snort. And that “hold your breath” thing? Did it too long once and they choked a bit! Had to stop and pat their back. We cracked up.
But. The key takeaway was the focus. Slowing down, touching in unusual ways, making silly little demands – it dragged us both out of autopilot. The actual “main event” felt less rushed, more connected. Definitely not our usual Wednesday night.
Final thoughts (and one thing I wouldn’t do again)
So yeah, mission accomplished. Did freaky stuff. Mostly the easy kind. Using tools we already had (oil, phone), simple orders, light teasing. Made boring feel new-ish. Would I do the exact same thing? Probably not the awkward oil pouring – maybe warm it next time! But the deliberate slowness, the controlled breathing trick? Heck yes, adding those to the regular rotation.
Biggest surprise? How just telling them what little thing to do (“hold here,” “breathe now”) changed the vibe so much. Felt less like a race to the finish. More like… playing. Weird, easy playing. Give it a shot if ya dare.
