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How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Spouse: Understand the Signs

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March 4, 2025
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Okay, here’s my personal take on dealing with a passive-aggressive spouse, straight from my own experiences:

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How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Spouse: Understand the Signs

It started subtly. I noticed my wife, Sarah, wouldn’t directly say what was bothering her. Instead, I’d get the silent treatment, or she’d make these little comments, like, “Oh, sure, go ahead and watch the game. Don’t worry about the dishes piling up.” It was frustrating, because I genuinely didn’t know what I’d done wrong half the time.

Recognizing the Pattern

First, I had to really pay attention. I started keeping a mental note (and sometimes a literal one in my phone) of when these situations happened. What was the context? What did I do or say right before? What was her response? It wasn’t about blaming her, but about understanding the triggers. Like, one big one was me forgetting to take out the trash. Simple, right? But it kept happening.

  • Silent treatment after I made plans without checking with her.
  • Sarcastic comments about my “forgetfulness” when I misplaced something.
  • “Accidental” sighs and eye-rolls when I talked about my day.
  • Giving a task with “Do whatever you want”.

The “Talk” (That Didn’t Go as Planned at First)

My first attempt to talk about it? Disaster. I tried to be all calm and rational, saying, “Sarah, I feel like sometimes you’re not telling me what’s really on your mind.” She got defensive, immediately. “I don’t know what you’re talking about,” she said, turning away. I realized I was approaching it all wrong. I was making it about her behavior, not about my feelings.

Changing My Approach

So, I took a step back. I waited for a calm moment, when we were both relaxed. Then, I tried again, but this time, I focused on “I” statements. “Hey, when you go quiet after I do something, I feel confused and a little hurt, because I don’t know how to make it better. Can we talk about what’s going on?” This was HUGE. It wasn’t an accusation, it was an invitation to connect.

Active Listening (and I Mean Really Listening)

When she finally started opening up, I made sure to really listen. No interrupting, no trying to “fix” it right away. I just let her talk. I repeated back what I was hearing, to make sure I understood. “So, it sounds like when I forget to take out the trash, it makes you feel like I don’t value your efforts to keep the house clean?” That kind of thing. It’s amazing how much just feeling heard can change things.

How to Deal With a Passive Aggressive Spouse: Understand the Signs

Setting Boundaries (Gently but Firmly)

This was tricky, but important. I needed to let her know that while I was willing to work on things, the passive-aggressive behavior wasn’t okay. I said something like, “I really want to understand what’s upsetting you, but the silent treatment makes it really hard. Can we agree that if you’re upset, you’ll tell me directly, even if it’s uncomfortable?” It wasn’t a magic wand, but it set a clear expectation.

Small Steps, Big Difference

It’s been a process, and we’re still working on it. I make a conscious effort to be more aware of her needs, and she’s trying to be more direct with her communication. We check in with each other more often, even if it’s just a quick, “Hey, how are you feeling about things today?” It’s not perfect, but it’s better. And that’s what matters.

We also agreed that if we can’t handle it ourselves, we will go to see a counselor. That’s the bottom line.

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