Alright, so my marriage hit a bit of a rough patch. It wasn’t anything dramatic, no big fights or anything, but the spark just… wasn’t there. We were like two ships passing in the night, living under the same roof but not really connecting. I realized we needed to do something before things got worse.
So I started by just paying more attention. I mean really listening when she talked, not just nodding along while thinking about work. I noticed she always mentioned wanting to go hiking, so one weekend I packed a picnic basket, grabbed our old hiking boots, and surprised her with a trip to our favorite trail. It was like seeing an old friend again. We talked for hours, laughed at silly things, and just enjoyed each other’s company without any distractions.
- Scheduled date nights.
- Cooked her favorite meals.
- Wrote little love notes.
- Offered back rubs.
- Initiated conversations about our dreams and fears.
We started scheduling date nights again, like we did when we were first dating. Nothing fancy, just a quiet dinner at home or a walk in the park. I made an effort to cook her favorite meals, even though I’m no chef. I even started writing little love notes and hid them where she’d find them. Corny, I know, but it made her smile.
The most important thing I did was to just be present. I put my phone away when we were together, I offered her back rubs after a long day, and I initiated conversations about our dreams and fears, even the ones that scared us a little. It wasn’t always easy. It took effort, and there were days when we were both tired and cranky.
But slowly but surely, we started to find our way back to each other. We rediscovered the things we loved about each other, and we learned new things too. We started holding hands again, cuddling on the couch, and just being affectionate like we used to be.
The Result
It’s not perfect, of course. Marriage is a work in progress, and we still have our ups and downs. But the spark is definitely back, and it’s burning brighter than ever. We remembered how to be friends again, how to laugh together, and how to love each other in a way that feels real and lasting.
