Okay, so I’ve been feeling like the spark in my marriage has been, well, let’s just say it’s been more of a flicker lately. And I thought, “Hey, I gotta do something about this.” So I decided to embark on a little project to see if I could become more attractive to my husband.
First off, I took a good hard look at myself. I realized I’d been neglecting some basic self-care stuff, you know, the usual. So I started there. I scheduled a long-overdue haircut and even treated myself to a mani-pedi. It’s amazing how much better you feel with a fresh cut and some colorful nails!
Spicing Things Up
Then, I thought about the things that used to make my husband light up. One of them is definitely my cooking. I used to whip up his favorite meals all the time, but life got in the way. So, I dusted off my apron and got back in the kitchen. I made his absolute favorite, lasagna, the other night, and let me tell you, the smile on his face was worth all the effort.
Next, I remembered something I read about love languages. It’s basically this idea that everyone expresses and receives love differently. It turns out my husband’s top one is quality time. Oops. I’d been so busy with, well, everything, that we hadn’t really been spending much focused time together. So I started making a conscious effort to put my phone down, turn off the TV, and just be present with him. We started having real conversations again, and it felt amazing.
- Quality Time: I put my phone away during dinner, and we actually talked.
- Acts of Service: I cooked his favorite lasagna, just like the old days.
- Physical Touch: I started giving him more hugs and kisses throughout the day.
- Words of Affirmation: I started telling him more often how much I appreciate him.
Little Things, Big Difference
I also made an effort to be more affectionate. I started initiating little touches, like holding his hand when we’re walking or giving him a back rub after a long day. It sounds simple, but these small gestures really do make a difference. I even started wearing that perfume he loves again. He noticed, and let’s just say, it definitely got his attention.
On top of that, I realized I’d been letting my own interests slide. I used to be so passionate about painting, but I hadn’t picked up a brush in ages. So, I signed up for a local art class. It was so much fun, and it felt great to be doing something for myself again. Plus, having something new to talk about made our conversations more interesting.
Kindness is Key
Being kind is also super important. I mean, who wants to be around someone who’s always grumpy or negative? I started making a conscious effort to be more patient and understanding with my husband. I tried to see things from his perspective and to be more supportive of his goals and dreams.
All in all, it’s been a work in progress, but I can honestly say that things are definitely looking up. My husband has been way more attentive and affectionate, and I feel like we’re finally getting that spark back. It just goes to show that a little effort can go a long way in a relationship. And honestly, it’s made me feel better about myself, too. So, it’s a win-win!
