Okay, so last week, things got a little heated with my partner. We had a pretty big fight – you know, one of those where you both say things you don’t really mean? Yeah, it was one of those.
Cooling Down
First things first, I took a step back. I literally went for a walk. I needed to clear my head and just…breathe. I think I walked around the block like five times, just letting the anger fizzle out. It’s like shaking a soda bottle – you gotta let the pressure out slowly, or it’ll explode.
Thinking It Through
Once I felt a bit calmer, I started thinking about what actually happened. Not just my side of the story, but really trying to see it from their perspective. It’s super hard, especially when you’re still feeling hurt, but I forced myself to do it. I replayed the fight in my head, and I picked out a few key things I did that was out of line.
The Apology
- I waited until we were both ready to talk. No forcing a conversation when someone’s still fuming.
- I started by apologizing for my part. No “but you…” stuff. Just a straight-up “I’m sorry for X, Y, and Z.”
- I listened. Like, really listened. I let them talk without interrupting, even if I didn’t totally agree with everything.
Making Amends
After we both said our piece, I tried to do something to show I cared. I made their favorite dinner,and we watched a film together. It wasn’t about pretending the fight didn’t happen, but about showing that I wanted to move forward.
It’s not always easy. fights happen. But taking those steps – cooling down, reflecting, apologizing, and making an effort – that’s what helped us get back on track. and the dinner was delicious, by the way.
