Alright, let’s talk about something that folks still whisper about, but honestly, it’s pretty out there: women using vibrators. My journey to even get comfortable talking about this, let alone understanding it, wasn’t exactly a straight line. It was more like stumbling around in the dark for a bit.
How I Ended Up Figuring This Stuff Out
So, I didn’t just read a book or something. My “practice,” if you wanna call it that, was more like a series of face-plants that forced me to actually pay attention. I used to think I was pretty clued-in on women’s stuff, you know? Had all these grand ideas.
Then came the big one. I tried to launch this, let’s call it a “women’s empowerment space” online. Thought I was gonna change the world, or at least have some cool discussions. Man, did that thing bomb. Hard. I got called out, big time. People basically told me I was living under a rock, especially when it came to more personal wellness topics. This whole vibrator thing? Yeah, I was totally out of my depth, and folks weren’t shy about pointing it out. Felt like a complete idiot, honestly. It was a real kick in the teeth.
That failure was my “wake-up call,” kinda like getting laid off from a job you thought you were good at, like in that story someone shared about Bilibili’s backend. You’re out on your butt, wondering what happened. So, what did I do? I started to actually listen. My “practice” became shutting my mouth and just absorbing. I talked to actual women, not just the ones in my echo chamber. I read forums, blogs, just lurked and learned. It was humbling, to say the least.
Here’s a bit of what I picked up, my “record” from that time:
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First off, this isn’t some niche, hush-hush activity for a select few. It’s super common. Way more common than you’d think from how little it’s openly discussed. Like, everyday-people common.
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The reasons? All over the map. Stress relief was a big one I heard. Self-exploration, figuring out their own bodies. Just plain old fun. Sometimes with a partner, sometimes solo. It wasn’t just one single story.
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And the devices themselves – holy moly. It’s not like there’s one standard “vibrator.” There’s a gazillion types, shapes, sizes, functions. It’s a whole industry, a whole world I had no idea about. My previous image was so outdated it was laughable.
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But the biggest thing? The awkward silence around it. Even with how common it is, there’s still this weird taboo. Lots of women are using them, benefiting from them, but talking about it openly? Still a bit tricky for many, which is a shame.
So, why am I even bringing this up? Because that whole mess, that project that crashed and burned so spectacularly, it ended up teaching me a ton. It wasn’t some planned research project; I sort of backed into this knowledge after getting my ego thoroughly bruised. It forced me to get real about stuff I’d been comfortably ignorant about.
It’s like I said, sometimes you learn things in the weirdest ways. For me, it wasn’t a fancy course; it was failure and then the slow, sometimes awkward, process of actually listening. And this topic, women and vibrators, it was a pretty significant part of that “getting real” education. My “practice” was basically getting over my own outdated ideas and realizing it’s just another part of life for a lot of people. No biggie, really. Just took me a while to get there.
