Okay, so, I’ve been dealing with this jealousy thing in my relationship, and it’s been a real pain. I finally decided to tackle it head-on, and I want to share what I did because it actually helped.
First off, I realized I needed to figure out where this jealousy was even coming from. So, I started paying more attention to my thoughts and feelings whenever I felt that pang of jealousy. You know, that “What’s going on here?” kind of feeling. I grabbed a notebook and jotted down whatever came to mind—no judgment, just raw thoughts.
After a while, I started seeing some patterns. A lot of my jealousy was tied to my own insecurities. Like, I was worried that my boyfriend found other women more interesting or attractive than me. Once I saw that, it was a bit of an “aha” moment. It wasn’t really about him; it was about me.
Talking It Out
Next, I knew I had to talk to my boyfriend about it. This was tough because I didn’t want to sound like a crazy, jealous girlfriend. But I took a deep breath and explained what I had discovered about my insecurities. I told him how I was feeling without blaming him. I just said, “Hey, this is what’s going on in my head, and I’m working on it.”
He was surprisingly understanding. He reassured me and we even talked about ways he could help me feel more secure. Like, he started being a bit more affectionate and made sure to tell me how much he appreciates me. Small things, but they made a difference.
Working on Myself
Then came the hard part—working on my own self-esteem. I started doing things that made me feel good about myself. I hit the gym, not to change how I look, but to feel stronger and more confident. I also picked up an old hobby I had dropped—painting. Getting lost in colors and canvases helped me focus on something positive.
- Journaling: Kept writing down my feelings and thoughts regularly.
- Exercise: Started working out three times a week.
- Hobbies: Reignited my passion for painting.
- Affirmations: Told myself I’m worthy and capable every day.
I even tried some of those positive affirmation things. At first, it felt silly, but I started looking at myself in the mirror every morning and saying things like, “You’re awesome,” “You’re worthy,” and “You’re capable.” It sounds cheesy, but it started to sink in after a while.
Keeping Busy
Another thing that helped was keeping busy. I noticed that I tended to get jealous when I had too much time on my hands. So, I filled my days with activities. I hung out with friends more, took on extra projects at work, and even volunteered at an animal shelter. Staying occupied kept my mind off those jealous thoughts.
It wasn’t a quick fix, but slowly but surely, I started feeling less jealous. I learned to trust my boyfriend more and, more importantly, I learned to trust myself. I still have moments of insecurity, but now I know how to deal with them. I can recognize those feelings, acknowledge them, and then let them go.
So, if you’re struggling with jealousy, just know that it’s something you can work on. It takes time and effort, but it’s totally possible to stop being a jealous girlfriend. You just have to be willing to look inward, communicate, and put in the work to build yourself up. Trust me, it’s worth it.
