Alright, so yesterday I texted this guy I’ve been seeing. We were having a pretty good conversation, you know, the usual back-and-forth, and then… nothing. I saw the two little check marks turn blue, which means he read my message. But he didn’t reply. That’s what we call “left on read,” and let me tell you, it’s not a great feeling.
So, first thing I did was stare at my phone. Like an idiot. I re-read our conversation, trying to figure out if I said something wrong, something that could’ve made him just stop talking to me. Did I come on too strong? Was I not interesting enough? I scrolled through our messages, overthinking every word, every emoji. It’s a mess in my head, okay?
After that, I started doing what everyone does – I asked my friends. I needed someone to tell me I wasn’t crazy for feeling a little upset about this. One of them said, “Maybe he’s just busy. People have lives, you know?” And yeah, that’s true. I mean, we all get caught up with work, family, or whatever. But still, it doesn’t take much time to send a quick text back, right?
Then I thought, “Maybe he’s just not that into me anymore.” This happens. People lose interest. It sucks, but it’s a part of dating. I tried to look at it this way, but it’s hard not to take it personally. You start questioning yourself, your worth, all that stuff. I even considered sending another message, a “double text,” but I stopped myself. I don’t want to seem desperate or pushy, you know? Plus, if he’s not interested, another text isn’t going to change that.
What did I do next?
- Wait it out: I decided to give it some time. I put my phone down and did other things. I worked, watched some TV, tried to distract myself. It’s not easy, but I didn’t want to be that person who keeps checking their phone every five seconds.
- Think about the pattern: I started to recall our previous interactions. Has he done this before? Does he usually reply quickly, or is he a slow texter in general? This helped me calm down a bit. I realized he sometimes takes a while to respond, so maybe this wasn’t that unusual.
- Consider the context: I thought about what my last message was. Was it something that needed a response? Or was it more of a statement that could be left alone? I realized it was kind of a conversation ender, so maybe he didn’t feel the need to reply.
After a while, I decided not to stress about it too much. If he gets back to me, great. If not, then that’s okay too. I’m not going to waste my time chasing after someone who doesn’t want to talk to me. My time is valuable, and I’d rather spend it on people who appreciate it. I told myself, “You’re cool, you’re fun, and if he can’t see that, it’s his loss.”
So, that’s my story. It’s not a big deal in the grand scheme of things, but it’s something we all go through in this world of instant messaging. It’s a little bump in the road of dating and relationships. You learn to take it in stride and not let it get to you too much.
