Alright, so today I finally tried out that “Spread em Wide” technique everyone’s been asking about. Started super basic ’cause honestly, I ain’t no expert.
Getting Ready
First, grabbed my favorite lotion – that cheap coconut stuff from the drugstore works fine. Warmed up a blob in my palms, rubbing slow like warming up cold hands in winter. Got my partner relaxed face-up with pillows under their hips. Real important: kept talking to ’em, asking “pressure okay?” like every 30 seconds.
The Main Move
Started with regular strokes to get things going. After a minute or two, slid my non-dominant hand underneath, palm up. Pressed up real gentle against the balls while my other hand kept moving. Felt kinda like holding a ripe peach without squishing it.
Then came the tricky part: used my thumb and pinky from the top hand to push the skin sideways near the base. Not yanking or pulling hard – just spreading things apart like unfolding a damn map. Did it in tiny adjustments:
- First attempt: Too light. Barely felt anything different. Partner said “what’re you doing?”
- Second try: Pressed harder with my bottom hand. Skin actually opened up proper.
- Third time: Found the sweet spot where everything exposed without discomfort.
Timing & Rhythm
Almost messed up here. When things looked open, got excited and went faster. Big mistake. Slowed back down immediately – kept the spread while going back to regular pace with my stroking hand. Felt weird doing two different rhythms but worked like hell after some fumbling.
Finishing Up
Held the spread position for maybe the last minute. Quit the spreading first, then eased the strokes. Cleanup involved way more tissues than usual, no surprise.
Final takeaways? Took me three tries to actually see what the damn tutorial meant by “spread.” And for god’s sake, shorter nails are non-negotiable unless you wanna draw blood. Gotta practice more when the mood’s right.
