Alright so this might be a bit personal, but hey, we’re all friends here, right? Someone asked about exploring their own body, specifically fingering, and what actually works. So, lemme just dive in and tell you about my own journey figuring this stuff out. Forget fancy books or complicated guides, this is straight from the trenches.
First Steps & Getting Set Up
Okay, so first off, I wasn’t even sure how to start. It felt kinda awkward, honestly. But curiosity got the better of me. I figured my own bedroom was the safest spot. Waited til I had solid alone time – nobody barging in! Key point: cleanliness is super important. I washed my hands really well with warm water and soap. Trimmed my nails short too, ’cause nobody wants scratchy surprises down there.
Trying Things Out
Started simple, just lying on my back. I think everyone does this at first. Used a pillow under my hips ’cause it felt a bit comfier. Now, the actual touching part… I began super gently. Like, feather-light strokes around my vulva, over the clit hood. Took my time, honestly, no rushing. Wasn’t about “getting there” fast, just exploring. Felt kinda ticklish and strange at first, but not unpleasant.
Next step, easing a finger inside. Needed some lube for this – dry friction is not it. Used a water-based one I had leftover from something else. Just a little drop on my fingertip. Then, super slow, like agonizingly slow, I pressed just a bit where the vaginal opening is. Took a breath, relaxed my body as much as I could (easier said than done sometimes!), and gently pushed the tip of my finger in. Felt tight! Honestly, it was less about depth right then and more about getting used to the sensation. Did little circling motions inside, kinda shallow. Discovered a slightly rougher spot felt kinda good when I rubbed it – maybe that was the G-spot area? Who knows, but it felt interesting.
Tried switching things up:
- Different Positions: Later tried lying on my stomach, hand underneath. That angle felt totally different! Also tried propped up against the headboard. Changes the internal angles.
- More Fingers? One finger felt okay after a while, so cautiously tried adding a second. Needed way more lube for this! Definitely felt fuller. Went back to one finger sometimes, depending on my mood.
- Combining Stuff: Quickly learned that touching my clit with my other hand while fingering was the magic combo for me. Focusing just on fingering alone sometimes got boring.
- Speeding Up/Slowing Down: Speed matters! Sometimes slow and deep pressure was best, other times quicker, shallower motions near the entrance got things going.
What Actually Worked (For Me Anyway)
After messing around for a while (and I do mean a while – this wasn’t instant!), here’s what finally clicked:
- Lube is Non-Negotiable: Seriously. Made everything smoother and way more comfortable.
- Clit Stimulation + Finger Combo: Fingering by itself wasn’t usually enough to get me over the edge. Needed that clit action happening at the same time. Using the free hand to rub it in circles alongside the finger inside did the trick.
- The ‘Come Hither’ Move Inside: When I curled my finger(s) slightly upwards and rubbed that front wall area with a kind of “come here” motion? Yeah, that often created a different, deeper sensation that built intensity well when combined with clit play.
- Listening to My Body: The biggest lesson. Some days I preferred just clit stuff. Other days I wanted the feeling of fullness from fingers. No pressure to do anything specific. Just went with what felt right in the moment.
Final Thoughts
Honestly, it took trial and error. Lots of error! Some sessions were frustrating, others were surprising. The key was patience, a clean set-up, good lube, and ditching any expectations. For me, starting super slow and gentle externally, easing into internal stuff, and definitely not neglecting the clit was the winning formula. Everybody’s different though. Just gotta find what makes your body feel good. Happy exploring!
