I was messing around online the other day, just surfing the web, and I stumbled upon this phrase, “granny lesbians.” Now, I’ve been around the block a few times, but this was new to me. I got curious, so I started digging. I just started my computer, and open the browser.
First thing I did was hit up a few different websites, reading articles and forums to see what people were saying. It turns out, “granny lesbians” are basically older women who are into other older women. It’s not something you hear about every day, but it’s definitely a thing. There’s a whole community out there. I read a bunch of personal stories, and they were really interesting. Some women talked about finding love later in life, others about finally being true to themselves after years of hiding. I looked into the website for hours.
I also found some research about this. I saw the name “Dr. Lauren Costine” mentioned a few times, apparently she’s a psychologist who wrote a book called “Lesbian Love Addiction.” I didn’t read the book, but it made me think about how relationships are complicated, no matter your age or who you’re attracted to. I skimmed a few articles about older LGBTQ folks getting more attention in studies and the media, which is cool to see. I marked those pages as important, and continued to look for more information.
- Finding online communities: I joined a couple of online forums and groups specifically for older lesbians. There are not a lot of people, but it seems like a good place to connect.
- Reading personal stories: I spent hours reading blogs and articles written by “granny lesbians.” I sent emails to them to share my opinions, and waited for their response.
- Looking into research: I found some academic articles and books that touched on the topic. Then I realized that I can get these books or articles from the library.
I found out there’s this group, they call themselves “a vigorous loose-limbed organisation,” and they’re all lesbians over 40. They talk about all sorts of stuff, like work and life. I think it is cool, then I joined their Facebook group, and made some friends there. I even found out about a 70-year-old lesbian writer and comic named Fay Jacobs. She’s got a show, and people of all ages seem to love her. I watched her show videos on the website, and sent her emails to ask some questions about her performance.
There was this one movie I came across, “Elisa y Marcela.” It’s from 2019 and it’s in black and white. I haven’t watched it yet, but it’s on my list. I checked the movie intruduction, and it seems like a love story. I really like love stories, so I saved it on my computer.
After all this searching and reading, I realized that being a “granny lesbian” is just about being yourself and finding happiness, no matter your age. It’s about connecting with other women and building relationships. I printed some pages that I found online, and organized them as a book. It’s been a real eye-opener for me, and I’m glad I took the time to learn about it. I talked to my wife, and shared these things to her. She was also surprised about this.
It’s a whole world out there that I never knew existed. I hope I can make friends with them, and explore more about this topic.
