Okay, so, let’s talk about something that’s been on my mind lately – going limp during sex. It’s happened to me a few times, and it’s honestly a bit of a mindfuck. You’re in the middle of it, feeling good, and then, bam, it’s like someone flipped a switch.
The first time it happened, I was with my ex. We were going at it, and I was really into it, but then I just… lost it. I tried to keep going, but it was no use. I felt like a total failure. She was understanding, but I still felt embarrassed as hell. I tried to play it off, but inside, I was freaking out.
It happened again a couple of times after that, with different partners. Each time, I felt that same sense of shame and disappointment. I started to get anxious before sex, wondering if it would happen again. It was like a vicious cycle – the more I worried, the more likely it was to happen.
- I tried different things, you know? Changing positions, taking breaks, focusing on other things to distract myself. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t. It was so frustrating. I felt like I was broken or something.
- I even talked to a couple of my buddies about it, just to see if they had any advice. They were cool about it, but they didn’t really have any answers either. One of them suggested I see a doctor, but I was too embarrassed to even consider that.
- I started doing some research online, trying to figure out what was going on. I read about all sorts of causes, from stress to medical conditions. It was overwhelming. I didn’t know what to believe or what to do. I felt lost and confused.
Eventually, I decided to talk to my current partner about it. It was a tough conversation, but I felt like I had to be honest with her. She was amazing about it. She listened, she didn’t judge me, and she was really supportive. We talked about ways to make things less stressful and more enjoyable. It was a relief to finally open up about it.
Things have been better since then. It still happens sometimes, but it’s not as frequent. And when it does happen, I don’t freak out as much. I know it’s not the end of the world, and I know my partner doesn’t think any less of me. We just take a break, cuddle for a bit, and then try again later. It’s not a big deal anymore.
I guess the point of sharing all this is to say that if you’re going through something similar, you’re not alone. It’s more common than you might think. And it’s okay to talk about it. Find someone you trust, whether it’s a partner, a friend, or even a doctor. Don’t be afraid to get help. There are ways to deal with this, and it doesn’t have to ruin your sex life.
