My Take on Getting It Right Down There
Alright, let’s talk about this. Took me a good while to figure things out, you know? It’s not like they hand out a manual. You mostly stumble through it, try stuff, see what works. Forget all the fancy talk you read online, most of it’s crap. It’s about paying attention, really.
So, first things first, you gotta make sure she’s comfortable, obviously. And you too. I found that just diving in doesn’t usually cut it. You gotta ease into it. Maybe start with some kissing, touching elsewhere, just build things up slow. Setting the mood isn’t just for movies, it actually helps relax everyone.
When it’s time, I usually start gently. Not straight to the main event. Maybe around the thighs, then slowly getting closer. It’s like exploring, finding your way. I learned pretty quick that pressure is key. Too hard is no good, too light and it’s just tickling. You gotta find that sweet spot, and honestly, it changes. You gotta watch her, listen to her breathing, little sounds she makes. That’s your real guide.
Here’s some stuff I actually did and figured out:
- Using the whole tongue, not just the tip. Flat of the tongue works wonders sometimes.
- Varying the speed. Slow, fast, pauses. Keep changing it up. Doing the same thing over and over gets boring for everyone.
- Lips are important too. Gentle suction, little kisses. Mix it with the tongue stuff.
- Don’t forget the clitoris, yeah, but don’t just hammer away at it relentlessly either. That gets sensitive. Circle around it, use different pressures, move away and come back. Variety is your friend.
- Using fingers at the same time? Sometimes works great. A little stimulation elsewhere can amp things up. But again, gotta read the room. Sometimes it’s too much.
Communication helps, but let’s be real, not everyone wants to talk during. So, paying attention is massive. If she squirms away, ease up. If she pushes closer, you’re probably doing something right. Simple as that, really. Took me ages to stop just doing what I thought was good and actually focus on what she was reacting to.
Patience is another big one. It’s not always a race. Sometimes it takes time. Don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t happen super quick. Just keep exploring, keep paying attention. Stay relaxed yourself. If you’re tense, she’ll feel it.
And afterwards? Don’t just roll over. A cuddle, a kiss, asking if she’s okay – that stuff matters. Shows you actually care about the whole experience, not just the physical act. That’s kinda the main thing I learned over the years. Be present, pay attention, and don’t be afraid to try different things until you find what clicks. It’s a process, not a performance.
