Okay, so, about this “toward each other” thing, I’ve had some experiences recently that I think are worth sharing. It wasn’t like I was looking for a big change or anything, it just kind of… happened.
It all started when I noticed things were feeling a bit off with my partner. We weren’t fighting or anything, but there was this distance, you know? Like we were living together but not really connecting. We used to talk all the time, about everything and nothing, and suddenly it felt like we were just going through the motions. I realized we hadn’t had a real heart-to-heart in ages. We don’t talk a lot recently.
So, I decided to do something about it. Nothing drastic, just small things. One day, I started with making breakfast, their favorite, which I hadn’t done in a while. And I made a point to actually sit down and eat with them, without my phone or the TV on. I began to express my feelings and encourage them to share theirs.
- I initiated a conversation about our future, not in a heavy way, but just casually bringing up things we’d both talked about wanting to do. We started making small plans, like weekend getaways or even just trying out a new restaurant.
- Then, I started actively listening more. Like, really listening. Putting my phone away, making eye contact, and just being present when they were talking. I tried to understand their perspectives without immediately jumping in with my own opinions or solutions.
- I also made an effort to show affection more, you know, the little things. A hug in the morning, holding hands while watching TV, just a simple “I love you” more often.
- We started having regular date nights again, even if it was just staying in and cooking dinner together or playing a board game. It didn’t have to be fancy, just dedicated time for each other.
- I found ways to help out more around the house without being asked, taking something off their plate, and showing I care. When they requested more attention, I tried to give them more.
It wasn’t like flipping a switch. It took time, and it wasn’t always easy. There were days when it felt like we were still drifting. But slowly but surely, I started to feel that connection again. We started talking more, laughing more, just enjoying each other’s company like we used to.
The outcome?
Well, it’s like we rediscovered each other. It’s not about grand gestures, but the small, consistent efforts to show you care, to be present, and to prioritize the relationship. We’re closer now than we’ve been in a long time, and it feels amazing. It’s like we’re finally moving toward each other, instead of just existing side-by-side. And honestly, it feels like a whole new beginning.
