Today, I decided to try something new to spice things up in my relationship. I’ve always heard about adding a bit of flirtiness to the bedroom and thought, why not give it a shot? Here’s exactly what I did and how it turned out.
Step 1: Set the Mood
First, I wanted to make sure the environment felt a bit more romantic and playful than usual. I started by dimming the lights in the bedroom and lit a few candles I had tucked away in the cabinet. Honestly, I hadn’t used them in ages, but they instantly made the room feel warm and inviting. Then, I threw on a playlist of light, upbeat songs—nothing too serious or overly romantic, just something fun to keep things relaxed.
Step 2: Start with Playful Communication
The next thing I did was to shift the way I was talking to my partner throughout the evening. Instead of keeping things casual or routine like “What’s for dinner?” or “Did you pay the bills?” I went for light, teasing comments. While cooking dinner, I leaned into them and whispered something cheeky like, “I think you’re looking way too good to focus on cooking right now.” They laughed, which instantly loosened up the vibe. The goal wasn’t to be serious or overly seductive—it was to keep it playful and fun.
Step 3: Introduce Something New
After dinner, I decided to add a new element to our night—flirty texts. Even though we were in the same house, I sent them a couple of cheeky messages from the other room. Stuff like “I can’t wait to see what happens later” and a winking emoji. I didn’t want it to come across as forced, so I kept it simple and fun. The response? A smiley face and “You’re trouble, you know that?” Success.
Step 4: Playfulness in Action
When we finally got to bed, I made it a point to keep things lighthearted. Instead of diving straight into anything physical, I challenged them to a silly pillow fight. It might sound ridiculous, but it worked. We were laughing, joking, and completely in the moment. By the time things naturally progressed, the mood was already so fun and connected that it didn’t feel like we were trying to force anything. Everything flowed from there, and let’s just say—it was way more exciting than usual.
Step 5: Reflect and Laugh About It
Afterward, we just laid there laughing about how silly and fun the night had been. My partner said something like, “We should do stuff like this more often.” And honestly, they were right. I think we sometimes forget that intimacy doesn’t always have to be so serious—it can be playful and experimental, too.
Final Thoughts
Trying out “flirty sex” was honestly such a refreshing experience. It wasn’t about grand gestures or anything over-the-top; it was about making little tweaks to our usual routine and focusing on being present and playful. If you’re feeling like things are getting a bit monotonous, I’d definitely recommend giving it a shot. Start small, have fun, and don’t overthink it. Trust me, the results will speak for themselves!
