Getting Started
Okay so last Thursday night, me and my partner actually tried something new based on stuff we’d read. Wanted to share how it went down step-by-step.
The Setup
Kids were finally asleep around 9 PM. We were just watching TV feeling kinda bored honestly. I casually brought up trying different touch techniques we’d talked about earlier that week.
- Made sure hands were clean – washed properly
- Grabbed that coconut oil – better than lube for this
- Dimmed the lights – took pressure off
Laid some towels down on the bed cause things get messy fast. Partner looked nervous so I joked about our first awkward date to break tension.
How Things Went Down
Started slow just massaging thighs while talking about work. Switched to open palm circles around sensitive areas – way less intense than direct touch. Saw partner relax into pillows after a minute.
First actual try: Single fingertip tracing patterns above clit area. Partner gasped but nudged my wrist deeper. Kept checking in like “Faster? Slower?” Got mumbled “Slower” back.
Experimented with pressure: Pressed fingernail side lightly first – partner jolted. Switched to fingertip pads doing super light taps instead. That got better noises.
Teased around the entrance without going inside first. When I finally did slip oiled finger in just knuckle deep? Partner full on arched off the bed! Had to laugh cause that NEVER happened before.
Big Takeaways
What actually worked:
- Asking “How’s this?” in the moment instead of guessing
- Keeping touches lighter than you think – heavy pressure killed the mood fast
- Using WAY more oil than seems reasonable
Epic fails:
- Tried “come here” motion inside – partner yelled “STOP THAT FEELS WEIRD”
- Forgot to trim thumb nail – oops
- Got bored waiting? Rushed the build-up
Whole thing lasted maybe 20 mins before partner needed break. But seeing them shiver afterward made me grin for hours. Honestly thought they were faking first time we tried this stuff years ago – last week proved me wrong big time.
