So, we decided to give this whole ‘female dominant positions’ thing a try. It wasn’t some grand plan, honestly. More like a conversation that spiraled, you know? We were just talking one night, and the idea popped up. Seemed interesting enough to explore, figure out what it actually meant for us.
Getting Started
Okay, starting was kinda awkward. Let’s be real. You read stuff or hear things, but putting it into practice? Different ball game. First few times felt a bit forced, like we were acting out a script. Communication was key, but even that was clumsy at first. Lots of “Is this okay?” and “What about this?” questions back and forth.
We tried a few different approaches. Sometimes it was about her literally taking the lead physically, setting the pace, being more in control of the movement. Other times, it was more about the setup, her deciding what we were doing, where, and how. It wasn’t always about being physically ‘on top’, more about the overall dynamic, who was calling the shots in that moment.
- We made sure to talk a lot before, during, and after.
- Tried different physical arrangements where she had more control.
- Experimented with her leading the decision-making for the whole encounter.
- Focused on making sure both felt comfortable and safe.
What We Found Out
Well, some things clicked, others just felt… off. It wasn’t some magic switch. What really mattered was the trust and feeling secure enough to let go or take charge. It definitely highlighted how much communication we thought we had versus how much we actually needed.
It wasn’t about one person always being ‘dominant’. That sounds exhausting, frankly. It was more about exploring that specific energy, seeing how it felt. Sometimes it was exciting, added a new layer. Other times, we just defaulted back to our usual flow because it felt more natural.
Honestly, the biggest takeaway wasn’t about the positions themselves. It was about the process of trying something new together, being vulnerable, and figuring out what works for us, not what some article says should work. We kept some elements we liked, ditched others. It just added a bit more variety to the mix, which is never a bad thing, right?
