Okay, here’s my blog post about figuring out “does he like me or just want sex”:
So, I met this guy, right? And things were… confusing. We were hanging out, having a good time, but I couldn’t shake this feeling that maybe he wasn’t really into me, you know? Like, maybe he was just after one thing. So I decided I needed to do some serious detective work.
Operation: Get to the Truth
First, I started paying super close attention to how he acted around me. Body language, people, it’s key!
- Was he making eye contact? Like, real, genuine eye contact, or was his gaze… wandering?
- Did he lean in when I talked, or was he kinda distant, physically?
- Did he find excuses to touch me (in a non-creepy way, obviously)? Like, a hand on my arm, brushing against me, that kind of thing?
Next, I analyzed our conversations. Deep, I know.
- Did we talk about actual stuff, like my hopes and dreams and his favorite brand of cereal? Or was it mostly just surface-level, flirty banter?
- Did he remember the little things I told him? Big red flag if he couldn’t recall that I hate olives, let me tell you.
- Did he ever ask about my day, my feelings, my opinions? Or was it all about him?
Then came the “subtle” testing phase. I dropped hints about wanting to do something non-sexual, like going to a museum or checking out a farmers market. His reaction was everything.
- Did he jump at the chance to spend time with me, no matter what we were doing?
- Did he kinda shrug it off, or suggest something that definitely involved getting naked?
- Or, worst of all, did he straight-up ghost me for a few days after I mentioned the museum? (Spoiler alert: that happened.)
I amped up the observation when other pretty girls were around.
- Does he show that he is still interested in talking to me or does he shift the attention immediately?
- Does his body language change? Does he make a conscious effort to sit where he can see them?
After all this “research,” I had my answer. It wasn’t the one I was hoping for, sadly. It became pretty clear that he was more interested in a physical connection than an emotional one. Disappointing, yes, but at least I knew. I wasn’t going to waste my time on someone who wasn’t on the same page.
So, yeah, that’s my story. It wasn’t a fun process, but it was definitely a learning experience. The biggest takeaway? Trust your gut, pay attention to the signs, and don’t be afraid to walk away if things don’t feel right. You deserve someone who wants all of you, not just a piece of you.
