Okay, so, “trust after infidelity” – that’s a doozy, right? I went through something like this a while back, and let me tell you, it was rough. I found out my partner had been cheating, and it totally shattered my world. I mean, how do you even begin to pick up the pieces after something like that?
The first thing I did was just… freak out, honestly. I cried, I yelled, I threw things (not at anyone, just at the wall, haha). It was a total mess. I felt so many things at once: anger, sadness, betrayal, confusion. I didn’t know what to do or who to turn to. But eventually I had to pull myself together for my own sake.
Facing the storm
- Stopped the blame game: It’s easy to start blaming yourself, wondering what you did wrong. But I realized that it wasn’t my fault. I had to remind myself that I’m worthy of love and respect, regardless of what happened.
- Felt all the feels: I allowed myself to feel all those intense emotions, without judgment. I needed to process them, to let them flow through me, instead of bottling them up. This was one of the hardest things to do, but it was also one of the most important.
- Honesty all the way: This was tough, but I decided that we needed to be completely honest with each other. No more secrets, no more lies. I needed to know everything, even if it hurt like hell. We had to get it all out in the open if we had any chance of moving forward.
It was a long and painful journey. There were days when I thought I’d never be able to trust anyone again. But slowly, bit by bit, I started to heal. I went to therapy, which helped a lot. I talked to my friends and family, who were super supportive. And I started to focus on myself, on my own needs and happiness.
Rebuilding trust takes time, a whole lot of time. And it takes effort from both sides. It’s not easy, but it is possible. I’m still working on it, to be honest. But I’m in a much better place now than I was before. I’m stronger, more resilient, and I’ve learned a lot about myself and what I need in a relationship.
So, if you’re going through something similar, just know that you’re not alone. And it does get better, I promise. Just take it one day at a time, be kind to yourself, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. You’ll get through this.
