Today, I wanna share something a bit different, something close to my heart – it’s about keeping the spark alive in relationships. I’ve been digging into this thing called “couple dr”, and let me tell you, it’s been quite the ride.
So, I started off where everyone starts – confused and a bit lost. I mean, relationships are tough, right? They’re not just about the lovey-dovey stuff; it’s a whole mix of ups and downs. That’s where my journey with couple dr began. I heard about this Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, and I thought, “Why not give it a shot?”
First, I needed to understand what this model is all about. From what I gathered, it’s all about seeing relationships as something that’s always moving, always changing. It’s not static, you know? It grows, it evolves, just like us. So, I dived into some resources, trying to wrap my head around this concept.
Then, I moved on to the practical part. How do you actually use this stuff in real life? I stumbled upon some tools, like the Gottman interventions. One thing that caught my eye was this Repair Checklist. Sounds a bit technical, but it’s basically a list of phrases you can use during those heated moments. It’s divided into categories like “I FEEL”, “SORRY”, “GET TO YES”. I tried using some of these phrases in my own relationship, especially when things got a bit tense. It was awkward at first, but it did help in calming things down.
- “I FEEL” – Started using this to express my emotions without blaming.
- “SORRY” – A simple sorry goes a long way, seriously.
- “GET TO YES” – This was about finding common ground, a way to agree on something.
Another thing I tried was this “magic ratio” – the 5:1 ratio. The idea is to have five positive interactions for every negative one. I started making an effort to do more nice things, say more kind words. It wasn’t about keeping score, but more about being mindful of how I interacted with my partner.
It wasn’t all smooth sailing, though. There were times when I messed up, said the wrong thing, or just didn’t get it. But that’s part of the process, right? Learning, trying, failing, and trying again.
So, what’s the outcome of all this? Well, it’s not like everything’s perfect now, but there’s definitely a change. We’re communicating better, understanding each other more. It’s like we’ve added a new tool to our relationship toolbox.
This whole couple dr thing, it’s not a magic fix. It’s more like a guide, a way to navigate the messy, beautiful world of relationships. I’m still learning, still growing, and honestly, it feels pretty good.
