Okay, so, communication classes for couples, right? Been there, tried that, gotta share my experience. It’s not always rainbows and butterflies, but hey, what is?
First off, we signed up. My wife, bless her heart, she found this place online. Looked legit, had good reviews. I was skeptical, thought it was all fluffy touchy-feely stuff, but I went along with it. Happy wife, happy life, you know?
The first class, man, it was awkward. We walked in, saw like, five other couples. Everyone looked as uncomfortable as we felt. The instructor, this lady named Sarah, she was nice enough, but still. We all sat down in a circle, and she started talking about “active listening” and “non-violent communication.” My eyes glazed over pretty quick.
We did some exercises. One where we had to take turns talking while the other person just listened and then repeated back what they heard. Seemed simple, but it was surprisingly hard! Especially when you’re talking about something you’re actually frustrated about. I remember I was talking about how she always leaves her shoes by the door. Sounds dumb, I know, but it drives me nuts! And she repeated back, “So, you’re annoyed that I leave my shoes by the door.” And I was like, “Yeah! Exactly!” But saying it out loud like that, it kinda made me realize how petty it sounded.
Another time, we had to practice “I feel” statements. Like, “I feel frustrated when you don’t do the dishes.” Not, “You always leave the dishes!” See the difference? It’s supposed to be less accusatory. It took some getting used to, I’m not gonna lie. I still slip up and just yell sometimes, but I’m trying!
There was homework too! Ugh. We had to write down things we appreciated about each other every day. And try to have one “meaningful conversation” a week without distractions. That was tough. Especially with the TV blaring and the kids screaming.
Honestly, it wasn’t a miracle cure. We still argue. We still get on each other’s nerves. But I think it helped, a little bit. I learned to listen better, to try and understand where she’s coming from. And I think she learned to be a little more patient with me. Plus, it was kinda nice to have a dedicated time each week to just focus on our relationship.
The biggest takeaway? Learning to communicate without attacking. Trying to see things from the other person’s perspective. It’s not easy, but it’s worth a shot. Would I recommend communication classes for couples? Maybe. It depends on your relationship and what you’re hoping to get out of it. But hey, can’t hurt to try, right?
Things I Learned
- Active Listening: Actually trying to hear what the other person is saying, not just waiting for your turn to talk.
- “I Feel” Statements: Expressing your feelings without blaming the other person.
- Patience, Patience, Patience: It takes time and effort to change your communication habits.
So yeah, that’s my two cents. Hope it helps someone out there!
