Okay, so, let’s talk about breastfeeding sex. It’s a thing, and it’s something I’ve been through, so I thought I’d share my experience.
When I first started breastfeeding, I was all about the baby, you know? I initiated this whole new chapter of my life, focusing on my little one. But then, my partner and I tried to get intimate, and it was just… different. I felt like my sex drive had just vanished. Poof. Gone. I mean, I loved my baby, but I also loved my partner, and I wanted to feel that connection again, but it just wasn’t happening naturally.
I started to worry. Was this it? Was this our new normal? I talked to some friends, did some Googling, and it turns out, it’s pretty common for your libido to take a nosedive while you’re breastfeeding. Hormones are all over the place, you’re exhausted from waking up every few hours, and honestly, sometimes it just hurts down there. It’s not exactly a recipe for romance.
So, I decided to take action. Not like, drastic action, but just small things. I started by communicating with my partner. I explained what I was going through, that it wasn’t him, it was just my body doing its thing. He was pretty understanding, which helped a lot.
Then, we tried to make time for each other, even if it was just cuddling on the couch while the baby napped. We planned little date nights, even if it was just ordering takeout and watching a movie after the baby went to bed. It wasn’t always easy, and it definitely wasn’t like before, but we were making an effort.
I also made sure to take care of myself. I tried to get as much sleep as possible, and I started doing some gentle exercises to feel more like myself. These are the small adjustments I made.
Slowly but surely, things started to get better. It wasn’t like flipping a switch, but gradually, I started to feel more like my old self. My sex drive started to come back, and we were able to find a new rhythm that worked for us. It is my final achievment.
It’s important to remember that every woman’s experience is different. Some women bounce back quickly, while others take more time. But the most important thing is to be patient with yourself, communicate with your partner, and don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Breastfeeding is a beautiful thing, but it can also be challenging, and that’s okay. You’re doing great, mama!
Here is my list of tips:
- Talk to your partner.
- Make time for each other.
- Take care of yourself.
- Be patient.
It took time, but we figured it out. And you will too. Just remember, you’re not alone in this. It’s a process.
