Okay, so, a while back, I started messing around with this whole bisexual couple thing. It wasn’t something I planned, it just kind of… happened. My partner and I, we’ve always been pretty open-minded about stuff, you know? We both identify as bisexual, but we’d never really explored it together before.
At first, it was just curiosity. We talked about it a lot, what it would be like, what we were comfortable with. Then came some obstacles, mostly in our own heads. We both had some internalized biphobia to deal with. I mean, society doesn’t exactly make it easy to be bi, right? There’s a lot of pressure to either be straight or gay, no in-between. We felt confused, like we didn’t really fit in anywhere. It was hard to accept that being bi was okay, that it was part of who we were.
- We started slow. We watched some movies, read some stuff. It was like dipping our toes in the water.
- Then we decided to try things out with other people, together. It was nerve-wracking, for sure. We had to learn how to communicate our boundaries and desires, not just with each other, but with other partners too.
- We stumbled through some awkward moments, no doubt. But we learned a lot about ourselves and each other in the process.
It wasn’t all smooth sailing. There were times when we felt insecure, or jealous, or just plain confused. We had to navigate the whole “coming out” thing all over again, which was its own can of worms. And there were definitely people who didn’t understand, who judged us. But through it all, we kept talking, kept exploring. We realized we weren’t the only people out there going through this, that it is totally acceptable.
Finally we got it
Now, we’re at a point where we’re pretty comfortable with it all. We just are like this. We’re a bisexual couple, and that’s just how it is. It’s not a big deal anymore, it’s just part of our relationship. We’ve found that being open about our sexuality has actually strengthened our bond. We’re more honest with each other, more vulnerable, and that’s made our relationship so much deeper. So, yeah, that’s my story. It’s been a wild ride, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything.
